Thu Be and Van Chinh were in love for 9 months before getting married. The two have lived together for 11 years and have four children. Currently, the two of them are running two offices specializing in providing application services to workers.
Sharing with People's Artist Hong Van, Ms. Thu Be confided: "The biggest disagreement between me and you is the way to solve the problem. When encountering situations that are not up to my wishes, I will choose to resolve them gently with customers and listen to them. But her husband works according to principles and reason. Therefore, the working methods of the couple with customers are completely opposite.
Mr. Van Chinh shared with psychologist Bui Hong Quan (lecturer at Ho Chi Minh City University of Education): "When working together, there will definitely be disadvantages, but not always disadvantages. Many times I don't pay attention to the advantages, but when a disadvantage occurs, I see it clearly, and that helps me learn from experience to do better".
Ms. Thu Be continued to share with People's Artist Hong Van: "When considering the effectiveness of problem-solving, I see that he puts too much affection in me, so I often suffer. While I want my work to be handled in a way that no one should suffer.
From there, conflicts arose. Actually, if the couple had to sit together to solve the problem together, I thought it was not serious enough. But the problem is that when a conflict arises, my husband and I don't sit together. I have submitted my petition to the court three times, and all of them revolve around conflicts at work.
Mr. Van Chinh emotionally shared with psychologist Bui Hong Quan: When he saw that the couple were no longer compatible, my wife unilaterally filed a lawsuit in court. But I did not agree because I thought the problem was not serious enough, I could still sit and talk. What your wife has decided is very difficult to change or cancel. My wife submitted an application up to three times, which is a bit too much.
When People's Artist Hong Van learned more about the way the couple worked, Ms. Thu Be shared: "I find my way of working more effective, so I want my husband to do it my way. But life is not as good as a dream. Character is something that is very difficult to change - your husband's personality is still your husband's personality, it cannot be otherwise. On the contrary, if I had to change the way I spoke to customers, I would not be able to do it.
People's Artist Hong Van commented: "When the couple work in the same profession, it is very difficult to find a way to work together. The problem now is that my husband and I must find the best possible solution together.
