According to former First Lady of the United States Michelle Obama, marriage does not always share 50 50 50 50 50 responsibilities fairly, or even always love each other. In the recent special show revolt x Michelle Obama MCed by Angela Martinez, Ms. Michelle revealed that she had to endure a decade of stress when she married her husband, Barack, when their daughter was young.
"People think it's embarrassing for me to say this - I couldn't stand my husband for 10 years. 10 years! Let's see when that happens? When the children were young," Ms. Michelle, 58, said.
Ms. Trump talked about how she started "counting" the housework between husband and wife, such as how many diapers each person changed or how much space Mr. Barack spent in the gym.
Children " have their own needs. They don't talk, communicate poorly and cry all day. They are unreasonable. They always need this or that. And you love them more than anything. So you can't blame them but your partner," said Ms. Michelle, author of the new book "The Light We Carry."
She shared that she was really disappointed at first because things were not going smoothly. But then she realized that "marriage is never 50/50."
"10 years, we have been married for 30 years. I would rather have spent 10 years as a bad thing, rather than 30 years - that's just how you look at it. Everyone gave up in the 5th year because they couldn't stand it".
Ms. Trump, who has been married to Barack for 30 years, said it was important to "understand your partner" to overcome those stressful times.
"Do you love your husband? I mean, you can get angry with him, but you still look at him and say, 'You're not happy with me, but you still respect me. I don't agree with him, but he's still a good, smart person," she shared with the MC and other guests such as Tina Lawson, Kelly Rowland, H.E.R. and Winnie Harlow.
"Emotions will change over time," Ms. Michelle analyzed. But once they are no longer passionate about each other, "everyone will want to give up. Now is the time for you to take a step back to get rid of the problems."
