On Gia Dinh Day, June 28, the atmosphere on the streets, off the streets, and on television newspapers kept talking about family happiness. Even I, in the past few days, have been performing shows to get my ear blown off, appearing on all forums and programs to celebrate family Day.
Because I have always been known and loved for my articles on marriage, Gia Dinh Day is always a day I "care to show" from June 22 and have gone on a series of events from one union to another, from television to online newspapers.
But, right now, a few minutes before Lao Dong opened the Gia Dinh - Marriage section and invited me to open a shop, I still think about the women who have just experienced a broken heart, the single mothers, and families with disabilities lacking a father. On Gia Dinh day, they will certainly be saddened.
Marriage is something that they swore to make a sea commitment at a young age, love until death, and commit to go together until the end of their lives, but the young age is still green, the sea is still dark, and if they die, their life is still so long, but the pledge to love has failed. Not waiting until the clouds flew all over her hair and her hands were gone. Therefore, marriage becomes untrustworthy.
The family was built from marriage, so the marriage broke down, and the family ended. The family is no longer there, the men are also playful and helpless. But women are less likely to suffer. But women who have children and are raising children are more vulnerable to orphans. Because of most of women's genetic codes, they need family more than men.
However, concerns and questions about happy marriage all originate from women. That is why women are always the ones to suffer with keeping the fire of marriage, nurturing family happiness. Men are more heartless.
I say this, women who have just experienced a breakdown, single mothers! Don't escape Vietnamese International Day. Don't miss this day. Don't hate this day. Don't feel sorry for yourself. Don't hurt yourself. There is still a home here even though this family lacks a father.
There is still a home here even though this family lacks a father. Being a friend, not a man who left this home decides the warmth of this home. Only you can bring happiness to your children. It is you who makes your child happy. Remember me that! Because if you are not happy, how are your children happy?
Don't talk about sacrifices to make your children happy. If you are miserable, even if your child wears traditional clothes, eats delicious food, goes to school... then your child will not be happy when his mother, the person he loves the most, is suffering or has to spend his life for what is called sacrifice for him.
So being a mother, you want your child to be happy, you yourself need to be happy first!
There is still a home here even though this family lacks a father. You don't have to force yourself to play both mother and father. No need and cannot. Please just be a mother! Become the best mother. A mother who always inspires her child positively.
A mother always stops everything whenever her child confides. A mother is always present in every step of her child's growth. A mother who made her child happy and sad all wanted to run back to tell her. A mother is both a mother and a friend, without having to dance around and scold her child like a father.
Because if a father has left this house and after all, how does he care about your child? Keeping them only hurts your child every time he sees his father treat his mother badly. Keeping them only makes your child lose faith in this tomorrow's marriage. Keeping them only makes your child feel sorry for them more.
A perfect home is when there are both fathers and mothers, but parents must be happy. If we do not reach perfection, it will still be enough to complete a home when we are completely connected. The family is a unit, right?
Happy Vietnamese family day to single mothers!
