Green divorce increases due to lack of cohabitation skills
According to statistics from the Institute for Family and Gender Studies, there are up to 60% cases of young people getting divorced after only 1 - 5 years of living together. Notably, many marriages break down in just a few months.
On average, for every 2.7 married couples, there is one divorce (accounting for more than 35%). The divorce rate in the under 35 age group currently accounts for 30%, clearly reflecting the trend of early breakdowns in married life of young people.
The causes of marriage crises are very diverse. Of which, lifestyle conflicts account for 27.7%, adultery accounts for 25.9%, economic problems account for 13%, domestic violence accounts for 6.7%, health accounts for 2.2% and long-distance living accounts for 1.3%. When disagreements are not resolved promptly, the outcome is often divorce.
The above figures show that divorce rates among young people are on the rise, especially in the first 5 years of marriage. "Unripe" marriages have broken up early, reflecting changes in concepts, behavior and the ability to adapt to family life of the younger generation.
Mr. Nguyen Tuan Anh (31 years old, Hanoi) got married after more than 6 years of dating. But less than a year later, the couple took each other to court.
"When in love, they find each other compatible, but only when they get married do they break up. We are different in everything, from spending, living to life experiences. Small disagreements gradually become big conflicts. We are not patient enough to balance, Mr. Tuan Anh shared.
Not an individual, the case of Ms. Le Thuy Linh (29 years old, Hanoi) is also proof of the "green divorce" situation. After 3 years of marriage, she and her husband decided to break up because they no longer had a common voice.
"The pressure of work, finances, plus not having time for each other gradually distance the two. The more we tried, the more tired we were, said Ms. Thuy Linh.
Young family breaks up early, long-term consequences
Associate Professor, Dr. Trinh Hoa Binh - Social expert - commented: "Green child marriage" is an alarming social phenomenon, posing a big challenge for the family structure of Vietnam in the new era. Marriages that break down before they are "mature" not only cause harm to both sides but also leave serious consequences, especially when they have children together.
"The early breakdown of the family has forced children to grow up in disadvantaged families. Children are vulnerable to psychological vulnerability, lack of balanced companionship from both father and mother, affecting learning outcomes, personality formation and future social relationships, the expert emphasized.
However, Associate Professor, Dr. Trinh Hoa Binh also noted that divorce does not necessarily have to be a "great" deal.
Even if they cannot continue living together, the most important thing is to maintain a cooperative and respectful relationship, especially in raising and educating children together, said the expert.
According to Associate Professor, Dr. Trinh Hoa Binh, this not only helps children ensure their spiritual and material rights, but also contributes to reducing post-divorce conflicts - which is a state of prolonged stress in modern society.
The rapid increase of "green marriages" shows strong changes in modern married life. When young people enter marriage with high expectations but little skills in handling conflicts, lack a foundation of understanding and patience, the risk of breakup is likely to happen.
However, it is worth mentioning that it is not about divorce, but about how people face broken relationships - with respect, responsibility and humanity, especially when the future of a child still needs the arms of both parents.
