This woman is on the brink of ending her 3-year marriage after noticing a change in her husband's attitude since he retired.
The story was shared on the British online forum Mumsnet. Accordingly, the wife expressed her reservations about whether to continue to be attached to her husband who they have been together since she was 23 years old.
She said that after six months of retirement, the husband, described as a "celebrity man and friends," showed a lack of "willingness and motivation". While the wife still kept a part-time job to earn more income, the husband did nothing but enjoyed his retirement time fully.
She shared: "We have lived in this house for more than 30 years, but it has a serious problem with mold. I thought he would take this seriously when he retired. But not at all."
What makes a woman feel most hurt is the feeling that she is shouldering all the responsibility. Most recently, she had to arrange a weekend trip herself because her husband did not do it when asked.
"I started to wonder what he would bring to this common life, besides money," she said. At the same time, she also revealed that they have not had sex for about 10 years and she always looks forward to her husband's away time to enjoy her private space.
Although she admits that their lives have fun aspects and she has no intention of looking for someone else. She wondered whether this stagnation and lack of support was the nature of a long-term marriage.
She also mentioned her parents: "I see that my parents are not happy but my mother still stays. Should I stay, for the whole of my life?"
On the forum, many people expressed sympathy for this not-so-ring "gray kissing" situation. Many people advised her to carefully consider what would bring her happiness in her later years.
One person commented frankly: "He sounds lazy with housework, I can't live with that. But unfortunately, she only works part-time with a low salary and cannot support herself, so I guess she is stuck!
The above story highlighted new challenges in long-term marriages, when role changes and retirement expectations become a surprise cause of breakdown.
