Among the recent cases of child abuse, many heartbreaking incidents have occurred by people called " stepmothers", "brothers", " stepfathers"... causing public outrage. Recently, the incident of an 8-year-old girl in Ho Chi Minh City dying from being abused by her stepmother has caused a stir in public opinion.
It can be said that this incident has partly shown that the consequences of a broken marriage are the disadvantages of children. Marriage is an important issue in life, but children are the most important thing in parents' life. What will happen to children when their parents divorce? This is a painful question for every couple when facing the decision to divorce to free each other to find new happiness.
Psychologist Tue An shared the problems your child will encounter when you and your partner "go their separate ways":
Feeling helpless, lost, disadvantaged
Children in a broken marriage will not be able to help but feel sad when seeing a friend happy, holding hands with their parents.
If you and your partner divorce and remarry or not, there will be a new love and the children will have to wade through disadvantages and losses because they will no longer fully receive the love of their parents.
The beautiful memories of their old homes are no longer there, now they feel abandoned, like surplus people when parents are busy worrying about their new love, new homes without frequently visiting, asking questions, or caring for them.
Unstable, easily hot-tempered, and angry personality
Every child needs education and guidance from their father and mother. A little strictness and principle from your father, combined with a little gentleness and gentleness from your mother will help you become a comprehensive person.
For families with only a father or mother, controlling and correcting children will not be much. Not to mention you have to work twice as hard to have money to cover expenses that do not give you much time for your children.
Children whose parents are divorced may be more combative and aggressive than usual, while others are self-conscious, shy and closed-minded, emotional and crying more easily.
studying is affected
divorce parents may have to change their children's residence and school. They are very sensitive, sudden changes in the living environment will put pressure on children when they have to get acquainted with new teachers and new friends. Many students will not be able to integrate, leading to fear of going to school. A divorce by parents also disrupts or slows down children's studies.
Impact on children's marriage later
This is the most noticeable effect and also leaves the most consequences. Is there a parent who does not want his child to be happy? Who wants their children to suffer, be unfortunate, be disregarded, who wants them to eat rice and drink tears, who wants their children to be abandoned or disregarded by their loved ones, who wants them to live a lonely life of hardship? The divorce of parents will also greatly affect their children's marriage.
Marriage is an important issue in life, but children are the most important thing in parents' life. So consider carefully before choosing a divorce.
It is easy to end a relationship, but it is not easy to erase the wounds that are deeply imprinted in the child's mind. Maybe a few years, maybe when they grow up, but it could be forever that cannot be compensated.
