When love is not in the same language
In married life, many husbands believe that caring for their family, working hard or repairing household items is a manifestation of love. But for women, concern lies not only in what they do, but also in how they express it.
Dr. John Gottman, a prominent marriage psychologist at the University of Washington (USA), pointed out: Women often feel love through listening and sharing emotions, while men express it through practical actions. This difference makes the two easily misunderstand each other, the man sees himself trying, while the woman feels lonely.
A question Are you okay? is sometimes worth hundreds of dishes or light bulbs. Women need to feel understood, while men often forget that understanding is not self-generated, it comes from proactively asking questions, listening and being present.
including others, the key to keeping marriage
According to Dr. Amie M. Gordon, lecturer in social psychology at the University of Michigan (USA), studies show that couples with high empathy will have less conflict and last longer. When you put yourself in the shoes of others, you not only listen with your ears, but also understand with your heart, she said.
empathy is not a sign of weakness, but a manifestation of maturity in marriage. A small question at the end of the day, a look when the wife is tired, or just need to put down the phone to listen, are all small actions but enough to make the woman feel appreciated.
Marriage does not require big things, just need two people to step towards each other, learn to speak and listen with the "language of love" that each other understands.
