Separation is a challenging period in marriage, when emotions, hurt and unresolved conflicts easily make things tense. However, this could also be a necessary time for the two to look back on their relationship, reflect on themselves and decide on the next direction, continue to heal or follow their own path.
Understand what you really want
Before separating, it is important to clearly define your own goals. You need time to think about or are considering ending this marriage. When both of you clearly understand each other's reasons and desires, exchanging, respecting and behaving will become easier, avoiding unnecessary misunderstandings and hurt.
Giving each other their own time and space
Abortion is when each person needs time to calm down and think. Do not try to force yourself or the other person to make a decision too early. When emotions subside, both will have the opportunity to look back on the problem in a alert manner and clearly understand what they really need in the relationship.
Clear agreement to avoid conflict
When living apart, the two should agree in advance on practical issues such as housing, finance, child care or common responsibilities. A clear arrangement will help both of you maintain respect, reduce stress and avoid arising disputes later.
Stay calm and respect each other
During the separation period, negative emotions can easily make things worse. Try to act gently, avoid criticizing or blaming each other. Whether the final result is reconciliation or a breakup, maintaining a respectful attitude will help both of you end up peacefully and maintain peace of mind.
Don't try to change others
Separation cannot change others if they are not ready. Instead of focusing on the other person's flaws, focus on improving yourself and staying calm in your emotions. When you become more positive, the relationship can also improve in a healthy way if given the opportunity.
Be honest and gentle with your children
If you have children, explain to them the situation gently, avoid hiding it or dragging children into adult conflicts. The most important thing is to make children feel that, no matter what happens, parents always love and are by their side.
Spend time taking care of yourself
Abortion is not only a distance between two people but also an opportunity for you to take care of yourself. Do things that make you feel comfortable, such as going for a walk, reading, meeting friends, or writing a diary to relieve emotions. Maintaining mental and physical health will help you be strong enough to overcome this difficult period.
