During the process of raising children, many parents have fallen into a feeling of being out of breath because their children are rebellious, dis listen to or repeat mistakes. After the sudden minutes, many people were instructed because their anger alone made their children afraid or hurt them.
Controlling emotions is not easy, but it is completely achievable.
1. Temporarily leave the situation to "low the heat"
When you realize you are about to lose your composure, parents should stop for a few minutes: step out of the room, take a glass of water, and breathe deeply. This short silence helps the brain relieve heat, avoiding sudden words or actions that can easily harm children.
Parents' calmness is more important than handling mistakes immediately.
2. Identifying your own emotions
Instead of blaming children, parents should ask themselves, Is this anger due to your childs behavior, or your own fatigue?
Sometimes work stress, life pressure or lack of sleep make us easily heat up. When parents understand their emotions, they will control it better and avoid spreading anger on their children unreasonably.
3. Don't look like you've never been hot
After calming down, parents should not act like nothing happened. This makes children easily misunderstand that their parents are just "talking to them for fear", and will gradually become greedy and disrespectful to reminders.
Instead, be straightforward but gentle: When you were too hot. I apologize for scratching my child. Let's talk about it now to get to know each other better."
This behavior teaches children to be honest, responsible and respect the feelings of others.
4. Adjust penalties appropriately
Children often make mistakes because they do not have enough awareness, so parents do not necessarily have to keep the excessive punishment spoken in a moment of anger.
For example: If you are too tired to say "throw away the TV", in fact, parents only need to reduce their children's time watching TV, or just let them watch it when they have finished their homework.
A reasonable, stable, and enforced punishment will help children understand lessons than extreme threats.
5. smile more with your child
A smile every day helps both parents and children reduce stress. Smiles stimulate the body to secrete endorphins - "happy hormones", help the spirit relax, the mind is clear and reduce the ability to react hot.
For children, parents' smiles are the "safe medicine" to help them feel secure, be more cooperative and connect.
6. Look back at yourself before blaming your child
There are many cases where parents are angry because they are exhausted and pressured. When entering the house in a tired mood and seeing their children in a miserable state, the brain easily "turns on the mode" to explode.
The most important thing is that parents dare to admit their limits, allow themselves to get tired, make mistakes and be corrected. When parents are tolerant of themselves, they will also be more tolerant of their children.
No parent is perfect, nor does any child grow up without making mistakes. The most valuable thing is that each person knows how to stop, recognize emotions at the right time and choose a healthy behavior.
When parents control their anger, children not only avoid injury but also learn how to regulate emotions, skills that are important for life later. And most importantly, love in the family is always kept.
