She said: Actually, I have been looking forward to a lot these days, attention, flowers, meals, and a few gifts. However, the older I get, the more I accept that my husband does not give me anything. I don't know if I lowered the standards myself, or I was too easy to negotiate."
There is one thing in psychology like this, people easily make compromises that go against their wishes in love.
Another friend confided to me: As a woman, I have known very clearly what I want from a man. For example, I like men to be proactive in getting to know each other, I don't date people who ask to share invoices, I don't accept a stranger giving gifts during holidays, I want to be taken by if he invites me to meet, or if I cook him dinner, he will be the one to wash the dishes and clean afterwards. But among thousands of standards, advice, and analysis about dating, I am sometimes afraid that I am not doing the right thing, or too rigid.
Just like that, sometimes I lower my standards and try to rationalize those actions by hoping that the other person recognizes me as a thoughtful person and is contributing efforts to build a relationship together. But every time I bounce my head, it seems like what I get is a lesson, not necessarily love.
Until my friends arrived, despite the tight schedule and lack of means of transportation, they were still the ones who picked me up and took me home the reason "if I invite you out, I have to be responsible for your safety". And from that I understand, how will a man really treat women?".
She turned out to be a very difficult person to find love for. I have repeatedly questioned myself whether it was because I was too clumsy and didnt know how to express my love that someone left me like that, she said.
What is the relationship between the two women? A person accepts low standards to feel happy and realize that the core within is not formal gifts. Others realized that lowering standards is a denial of the values that one deserves to receive.
I realized that they had one thing in common, that was that they were both on the path to understanding themselves. The advice of psychologists is: Not every man knows how to be a man, nor does every woman know how to live as a real woman, and we all need to learn for that. So if you want to meet someone in their best version, first of all, be the best version of yourself.
