There was a friend I hadn't seen in a long time, the other day I saw his face and expression was very bad, I asked him and found out that he was "having problems in love". The thing is, he had a girlfriend. She was not outstanding in anything, not too pretty, not too tall, not too thin, not too fat, but she was easy to talk to, the type of person who was patient and hard-working in the old days. They seemed to have been in love for a long time, but for some reason, they had not yet gotten married. Either it was him, or her, or they both felt that something was not yet ripe.
Then he said: “Recently I met a really nice girl, very different from my current girlfriend. She is prettier, taller, and the modern, sharp type…”. After waiting for him to speak for a while, I asked: “So what are you going to do?”. He thought for a moment and then replied: “I don’t know what to do either.”
I told him that psychology has shown that the freshness of love only lasts for a certain period of time. After this period of time has passed, some people will no longer be as intense as before, but some will also feel that the fire of love is lacking. Therefore, when your feelings have wavered, think again, is it because there is a conflict between the two of you that cannot be resolved? If it is because there is no more love, then you should be grateful that the two of you met, then calmly say goodbye.
But if you are discouraged and give in to temptation every time, you will never experience the happiness that is both intimate and full of promise.
I also told him that some people think: If you love each other and start to get bored with each other, then you should break up. But there is also an argument: When love gradually fades, that is when it really starts to exist.
Of course, you can choose to let go and find a new love, that is everyone's right. But the price to pay is that you will never escape that loop, even when you are very old.
