Many parents share that they often feel frustrated when their children are easily discouraged, work unfinished, and lack concentration. Over time, that impatience and impatience can become a habit, affecting the personality and behavior of children as adults. But few people realize that children do not naturally become impatient. Behind that could be invisible pressure from adults' expectations, lack of direction, or even a lack of a steadfast example to follow.
Training children to be patient is not by forcing, scolding or comparing. It is a gentle, patient process from parents to accompany, inspire and nurture their children's inner strength every day.
Divide tasks, so that children see what they can do
When children have to face a task that is too big or too complicated, a sense of fear and depression will appear first. At that time, instead of forcing children to do everything from the beginning, parents can divide their work with their children and set affordable goals.
A small success is enough to instil in children the belief that "one can". It is trust that is the first brick that builds the habit of perseverance. Every small step, every completion will lead children to bigger goals in the future.
Re-defining success, valuing the process more than the result
A common mistake is only caring about the destination, forgetting the journey of effort of children. When parents only look at their scores and achievements, children are easily born a fear of making mistakes, being afraid of trying, and gradually losing motivation.
Help them understand that success is not always achievable immediately, but that they know how to try harder every day than yesterday. Every time I patiently solve a difficult problem, clean up the study corner myself, or sit on a daily basis until the end of the picture, that is a worthy success.
A timely word of encouragement, a look of trust, a sincere khenket from parents is the greatest gift that helps children become stronger.
Parents set an example, be patient with their children
Children learn the most from observing how adults live and work. If parents give up easily, or are impatient, often angry when faced with difficulties, children will consider it a natural reaction.
Let's show our children that parents also know how to be persistent from simple things: read a whole book, meticulously take care of the garden, arrange the house to cover the covers. And even in the way you listen to your child, do not interrupt or urge, be patient enough to understand what your child is wondering.
When children make mistakes or are later than expected, instead of being petty, parents can ask suggestive questions: "What way do you want to try it?". That respect makes children more confident and know how to persevere in finding solutions.
Create a clear schedule and a positive space
Lack of a stable schedule can easily cause children to lose focus and get bored. Parents should maintain a regular lifestyle, interspersed with time for studying, exercising, resting and entertainment. A quiet, uninterrupted environment also helps children practice more concentration and patience.
In particular, prioritize patient nurturing activities: shaping, coloring, playing musical instruments, making handicrafts... Each experience like this teaches children a lesson about slowness, meticulousness and joy when completing what they have started.
inspiring instead of creating pressure
Not all children are naturally interested in the tasks assigned by their parents. Let's turn challenges into games, an exciting discovery. Sometimes just a promise to your child " see who is more persistent" or a board recording the milestones of effort is enough to make children excited.
Don't put too much pressure on achievements. What children need is to feel loved and trusted, no matter the outcome.
