What causes disagreements about having children?
According to a study published in the journal Family Relations, besides housework and money, having children is one of the main causes of conflict in marriage because:
- Views on the timing of childbirth: In modern life, the roles of earning money and developing careers of men and women in society are equivalent. Giving birth early makes women lose many opportunities, but women's fertility gradually decreases with age. The urge of their partners and families about the timing of childbirth makes women feel pressured, and over time this becomes a conflict that makes them not want to have children.
Emotions: Some people grow up in unhappy, divided, or even violent families, which makes them afraid of repeating the past and not wanting to have children.
Financial considerations: Raising children is a difficult and expensive journey, and because they do not feel financially stable, many young people choose to have children later or even not have children at all.
What to do if your partner doesn't want to have children
Talk openly: To solve the problem, start by finding out the cause. Talk to your partner and find out why he or she doesn't want to have children, then you will find a solution.
Reassess your priorities: Think carefully about why you (or your partner) don’t want children. Is it a genuine desire or is it pressure from family or society? This will help you make the best choices for your priorities.
Set a time frame for decision-making: If you can’t resolve the conflict about having children, stop the discussion and set a specific time to revisit the issue. This time will help the couple rebalance and come up with solutions to the issue.
