Ms. B called the program and expressed her awkwardness when her biological parents pampered her grandchild, affecting the way she and her husband raised their children.
Ms. B shared: My family has a small child, 6 years old this year, who has just entered first grade. Grandmother at home loves her grandchild very much. Every time I teach my grandchild to study in the room, my grandmother often speaks, advising me to let him study and write less because I am afraid he will get tired.
Once, he caused trouble with a classmate, so that evening, my husband and I taught him. When my husband raised his whip, the girl screamed and asked her grandmother for help. Hearing the child's voice, the grandmother immediately rushed into the room, hugged him and ran away, surprising my husband and I.
The older the child gets, the more worried we are about how grandmother loves her child, not knowing how to teach her to be human.
As the mother of 3 children, after listening to the story, Meritorious Artist Van Khanh sympathized because she had experienced a similar situation; the singer recounted a similar story about her grandmother entertaining her grandchild.
The female artist said that when her child started to know how to get a buckwheat, knowing that someone was "armed", one time, when her mother scolded her, she went to her grandparents' house without saying a word. After that, she was scolded and criticized by her biological mother for her parenting.
However, Meritorious Artist Van Khanh is very determined in teaching her children. When the child left for her grandmother's house, she asked her biological mother to take her back.
She also banned her child from going to her grandmother's house until she realized her mistake. After that, Van Khanh frankly sat down with her parents and asked them not to defend her and to cooperate in teaching.
The Hue singer recounted: "If parents do not agree with what you say, please clearly state your point of view to resolve it together, do not defend your child in front of him like that, because that will only harm him.
If parents still maintain their views and do not cooperate, I apologize, but I am forced to prohibit my children from going back and forth with their grandparents because I am responsible for my children.
After a while, everything gradually stabilized. When he was over 20 years old and working, his grandparents had to admit: "It was true that in the past, if we only pampered him like that, then now we certainly cannot correct his obstinacy".
However, after the above experiences, the singer realized that grandparents love grandchildren and pamper them, which is understandable.
"The mentality of loving children changes to loving grandchildren, especially when she has a lot of free time. The great expectation and love lead to pampering and interfering in everything of the children.
She often gives advice, instructions on how to take care of the grandchild, and even applies it according to her child-rearing experience. This comes from love, but sometimes it causes excessive intervention, the female artist shared.
