Appearing on the show "What I Want to Say", Hien Minh explained: "This ruler, every time I do something wrong, my mother will hit me. Every time she teaches me, my mother always speaks harshly to me. I want my mother to teach me slowly so I can understand. I feel very hurt and see that my mother is very hot-tempered." Sometimes she thinks that her mother doesn't love her so she hits her.
At home, Hien Minh is close to her grandmother, but she still does not dare to confide in her and express her wishes, she only tells her happy things. She said that when she is angry and does not tell anyone, she will break her pencil to relieve her anger. She almost never dares to tell her feelings and wishes directly to her mother. She hopes her mother will teach her gently.
Ms. Bao Ngoc - Hien Minh's mother said: "I feel pressured, afraid that my child will not be able to catch up with his friends, I teach him but he refuses to study, he always looks tired. I don't expect him to study well like his friends, I just want him to move up a grade. There are times when I get so frustrated that I have to shout and gently shake my hand to scare him."
According to Dr. Quynh Dao (Vietnam Academy of Social Sciences), as an adult, sometimes anger is uncontrollable, let alone a boy. The doctor feels that the child's act of self-releasing anger is also a good thing and crying to release emotions is the most harmonious way.
If you think positively, you will understand. Let your child cry. After crying, the parent will analyze and the child will understand. Dr. Quynh Dao hopes Hien Minh promises that if she wants her mother to be gentler, the child must be good.
The doctor advised the child that every time he was angry, he should say: “Mom, can you let me be alone for a bit?” The doctor also explained to the child that by using a flexible ruler instead of a hard one to hit him, she meant that she wanted to be gentler, just to teach him to understand, and remind him to be more obedient.
Dr. Nguyen Ngoc Quynh Dao advises parents: “Parents should imagine that each child will have a different way of expressing emotions and accept the safest way for the child. Only when the emotional stage is over can we influence them, but when the emotions are at their peak, no matter how much influence we have, the child will find a way to resist. Teaching children is a process, so parents must be patient, calm, and must teach many times to create habits and personality traits for the child.”
After listening to psychological counseling, Ms. Bao Ngoc concluded: "For Hien Minh, I should be a little slower, first protect my feelings, then look at her and speak gently."
