Opening the program, MC Phuong Uyen shared the story of Ms. X. Her family and her husband's family are neighbors, sharing a common yard, so the relationship is very close. However, at her child's first birthday party, her father-in-law and mother-in-law sang a duet and performed emotionally the song "Knocking on the door of the heart". This seemingly fun performance made Ms. X's biological mother uncomfortable, gradually avoiding her mother-in-law, and even building a wall separating the two houses.
Actress Huynh Ngan expressed: "It's fortunate that my husband and I don't live together. If we lived together, the conflict could be even more tense." Analyzing from a psychological perspective, Dr. To Nhi A said that building a wall is a manifestation of long-accumulated resentment, and when it explodes, the reaction is very strong. She emphasized that in the role of children, it is necessary to listen to parents' emotions and become a bridge to avoid escalating conflict.
In the second situation, a viewer told about the conflict between the biological mother and her mother-in-law in taking care of the grandchild. When the grandmother commented that the grandchild gained more weight after a week living with her, the words were unintentionally understood as criticizing the grandmother. The husband repeated the sentence at the meal that hurt his biological mother and wanted to go to the stepmother's house to clarify.
Commenting on this case, Huynh Ngan said: "This is a small matter but is pushed into a big one". Dr. To Nhi A analyzed that for many people, raising a child is a source of pride and also a way to affirm their role. Words that seem harmless can become real hurt if lacking sophistication.
Concluding the program, Dr. To Nhi A affirmed that the relationship between husband and wife in Vietnamese culture requires understanding and skill in behavior. Actress Huynh Ngan agreed, saying that sometimes being silent at the right time and listening sincerely is the best way to maintain family harmony.
