In a society that is gradually becoming more open and gender-based, women's success is no longer a rare thing. But it was also during that process that many marriages were faced with underwater. When the wife is increasingly promoted in work and respected in society, the husband - even though he is not talking - may be falling into a feeling of imbalance, inferiority and... loss of role.
When a man's self-consciousness silently destroys marriage
Ms. H.L - a manager in the financial industry - shared: "When I was offered the position of deputy general manager, my income increased by three times, I thought my husband would be happy. But no. He gradually became cold, talked less, always looking for ways to lower me when he had the chance, especially in front of relatives. I don't understand, or rather - I don't accept - why my success hurts the man next to me so much."
This mentality is not uncommon. For many men, their position in the family is still associated with the image of a financial pillar, a "monogamous" person in some aspects. When that role is "threatened", they may not say it, but inside, there is a feeling of being overwhelmed, out of control, even... being taken lightly.
Mixed-edseds prejudice: Is a good wife a sin?
A paradox is happening: society encourages women to study well, do well, and succeed - but when that becomes a reality, it is the most recent relatives who feel insecure. Gender tendencies not only create a burden on women's shoulders, but also detain men in the mold of "more rights than wives".
When women are financially independent, self-sufficient in decisions, and not too dependent on love, some men feel that they no longer have "room to act". Instead of adjusting to accompany, they withdraw, blame, and even break the relationship because they "cannot endure the pressure of being inferior to one another".
From being a partner, successful women are sometimes seen as "rivals" in their own home.
Not that successful women break down marriages but that men are not brave enough to go with them
It needs to be clearly affirmed: the success of a wife does not cause a rift in marriage - unless the husband cannot accept equality. A man who is mature in perception will understand that: developing together is a proud thing, not a disadvantage.
On the other hand, the wife also needs to be tactful. Being good at being gentle should not come with controlling, mocking or disregarding your partner. When love is replaced by power, marriage will quickly become an underground game that no one wins.
No one needs to "be king" at home
Modern marriage requires flexibility, understanding and mutual respect. The person who makes more money is not the more vocal. Success does not change feelings if two people look in the same direction, consider each other as a companion - not a competitor.
Women have the right to shine. Men have the right to be proud. And marriage if it really comes from love should not be a place where one wins or one loses. An ideal partner is not someone who makes you feel "excessive", but someone who makes you feel like you are growing up with him.
