When women choose to marry far away
Getting married far away is no longer rare, as women are increasingly proactive in their studies, work and social relationships.
However, choosing to get married far away still has many concerns, whether it is a new life opportunity or a journey of loneliness.
Ms. Ngo Thuy Linh (28 years old, from Thanh Hoa, married in Hanoi) - said: "Marrying a family forces me to grow up faster. Everything from living, taking care of children, and dealing with my husband's family must be learned by myself. There are times when I feel very sorry for myself, especially when I am sick or have young children.
Meanwhile, some other opinions suggest that geographical distance is not a barrier if marriage is sufficiently solid.
Mr. Phan Ngoc Tan (30 years old, Hanoi) - shared: "My wife is from Thai Binh, married me in Hanoi. Understanding my wife's psychology of being away from home, I always try to give my wife and me private space, less affected by family and try to take my wife back to my hometown every Tet and spring.
From this reality, it can be seen that marrying a distant husband is not entirely "winning" or "losing", but depends a lot on the psychological preparation of the wife, the understanding of the husband and especially the quality of the marital relationship.
The understanding of the husband is the key factor
According to psychologist Mai Viet Duc - Nhan Hoa Viet Psychological Consulting and Therapy Center, getting married far away brings both advantages and disadvantages for women.
''On the positive side, this is an opportunity for women to experience a new living environment. Not living near their biological families also helps young couples have independent space to build a home in their own way, less interference from both paternal and maternal families'', the expert said.
However, getting married far away can also cause many negative effects.
Marrying a family means that women lack spiritual support in daily life, especially in important stages such as childbirth, raising children or when encountering upheavals," expert Mai Viet Duc analyzed.
Besides, they also have to face pressure to integrate into the culture, lifestyle, and even customs of their husband's family.
Geographical distance is not just about near or far, but about the level of support and sharing in marriage. When there is no family by their side, women often place more expectations on their husbands. If the husband loves and understands enough, the bond will become deeper," the expert said.
Regarding the worry about the mother-in-law - daughter-in-law relationship, experts believe that this is a well-founded psychology, because women marrying far away often have to adapt more while lacking support from their own families. However, the issue should not be viewed one-sidedly.
If the daughter-in-law is proactively open and the husband knows how to act as a bridge of affection, this relationship can completely become harmonious, even as close as mother and child," the expert emphasized.
