In the letter to the program, Ms. B shared her suffering when she was often labeled "violently" just because she worried about her husband every time he went drinking. She said that her husband often "comes to the station" and is so drunk that he falls to his death right at the table. Therefore, she was forced to keep calling him to remind him to come back. But it was that worry that made her lose control and was rumored by her husband's friends. She once wanted to go there to explain, but was afraid that it would affect her husband's honor, so she had to silently endure.
Ms. B confided: "My husband is very enthusiastic about drinking, and all three and four times there are times. Once I was drunk, I had to "go to the station" and always come to the station late, then sleep at the table, my wife calls me not well. I was very afraid of this situation, so when he went drinking while still alert, I had to call him to ask where he was, which restaurant, and call him continuously so he knew the way back. So, on the day of the party, I was worried about being drunk and confiding in the association of brothers because my wife was managing her husband and not giving him freedom, just like that, some people in the company all knew my name was aggressive".
Singer Hai Yen sympathized with that situation and shared a similar incident from an acquaintance - a wife who had gone to the drinking table to "disturb" her husband's friend, leading to her husband losing his friend, and the couple being angry with each other for many months.
For Hai Yen, the solution is not confrontation, but finding allies in the family, talking frankly to help her husband understand the consequences of drinking. According to the female singer, instead of arguing, let's find a way to bring her husband back together with the support of spoke relatives. "Yen's way is to find relatives in the family, find allies first, second is to talk to him frankly about the consequences, the things that can happen that he can't predict in drinking", singer Hai Yen shared.
Psychologist To Nhi A shares a frank view on how to deal with a drinking table when her husband is trying to steal her. According to the doctor, it is useless for the wife to keep calling or saying morality while her husband is drinking, because at that time the husband has "entered the battle", making it difficult for him to accept anything. The messages only made the husband feel uncomfortable and could be taken advantage of by a drinking friend for disregard for his wife.
The doctor gave a solution, instead of facing off head-on, the wife should choose a more intelligent and reserved way, such as secretly recording the image of her husband when drunk, so that the husband can see the image from the time he was in good form to the time he gave birth, so that he can look back at himself. If the husband still does not change by then, the wife needs to seriously think about stopping.
After listening to the above two stories, singer Hai Yen expressed her feelings that many wives were labelled "lion" or "fighting" just because they were concerned, worried and wanted to keep their families. According to Hai Yen, no woman likes to control her husband or wants to be uncomfortable in the eyes of the person she loves. They only become strong because of responsibility, because of love and because of the pressures of married life.
