A friend told him that his parents were both over seventy years old. The two grandparents still lived very frugally in a small house. Every time he gave money, his mother just smiled and put it in the bank. He had told his mother a few times to spend it, being old, why save money. But one day, he accidentally saw his grandmother's savings book. The first page had a gold piece of paper attached with a short line: "Money for later when old and weak, not to ask for from the children". It turned out that the money was not for enjoying old age. Parents used to raise their children with everything they had, but at the end of their lives they only hoped to have enough strength to take care of themselves. Not because they didn't believe their children loved them. But because they didn't want that love to become a burden.
Now, many parents are preparing for old age in that way. They buy insurance, deposit savings. They learn to use smartphones to book cars themselves, transfer money themselves, and make appointments for medical check-ups themselves. They try to do everything independently, to ask their children as little as possible. Because parents are afraid that their children are too busy, afraid that their children are paying in installments for apartments, having to raise young children. Afraid that each time they are sick, it will disrupt the life of the whole family.
In the past, parents were only afraid that their children would lack food, today, parents are also afraid that they will become a burden. The sad thing is that many children do not realize that. They see that their parents are still healthy and naturally think everything is still okay. They see their parents say "parents have money" and believe that their parents are really well-off. They do not know that behind that saying is sometimes just the desire to reassure their children. Many old people still wear old clothes for 5 consecutive years, but send several hundred million to the bank. Because they want, if one day they have to be hospitalized, they can pay the hospital fees themselves. If one day they can no longer walk, they can hire someone to take care of them. So that their children only need to hold hands, not worry about handling each bill. That is the money to buy peace for their children more than for themselves.
Therefore, the warmest way to show filial piety is not expensive gifts, but to make parents believe that they always have the right to "harass" their children. Instead of making parents proud of "not bothering their children", let them feel secure knowing that their most solid support is the child they cherished throughout their lives.
