Ms. B told her story to MC To Nhi A. At the time they met, Ms. B's husband took her to introduce her to the family.
Ms. B shared: "As soon as I stepped in to greet my parents-in-law and two younger sisters, I immediately received the eyes of judgment. I just go to work and then go home, not have to go out or update modern fashion trends, so the two sisters think I am from the seasons."
MC To Nhi A wondered: "When there are too many things that make me uncomfortable, what made you decide to still marry this man? Over the past 5 years, how have the problems between you and your brother-in-law gone down?".
Ms. B replied: "My husband and I came together for love, I believe that as long as we truly love each other, we can overcome all challenges. My parents-in-law are not too strict, they understand me. I think that with my parents and husband as a solid support, everything will be fine. As for the two sisters-in-law, I believe that time will solve everything. I just thought it was that simple.
But the common life of the extended family was not as rosy as Ms. B imagined. She said: "Since returning to my husband's house, I have had to endure bad words and contempt from my two sisters-in-law.
Because I am a small provincial, I do not dare to claim to be as luxurious as a Saigonese person, that makes my two sisters-in-law disregard me. Not only that, the gifts from my parents' hometown were also criticized by them, making me and my parents very sad. My parents brought home gifts such as fruits, vegetables, eggs, but the two sisters-in-law said: "These things are all dirt and worms".
Not only did they violate the gifts from the countryside, the two sisters-in-law also forced Ms. B to wash their clothes by hand, making her even more upset, deciding to talk about this with her husband.
Initially, the conflict mainly stemmed from dividing housework and cooking, but later, the resentment grew. During her pregnancy, Ms. B was sick and could not taste the food, leading to salinity.
The mother-in-law was worried, while the two sisters-in-law were excited to come out and chat with each other.
After hearing the story, MC To Nhi A asked: "Why didn't you go out alone?".
Ms. B replied: "My husband is the eldest son, so staying with his parents to worry and support his old age is the right thing to do. I have wanted to go out alone many times, but thinking about my old parents and no one to take care of them, I feel like I have not fulfilled my responsibilities. Therefore, I always try for my husband and children.
MC To Nhi A analyzed: Caring for parents does not mean being forced to live together. Because there are many people who, even though they live together, do not really care for their parents.
If you have decided to live together, you have to proactively resolve the relationship, you can't hope that just by living together, everything will suddenly improve. Actually, it is not discussed whether the two sisters-in-law are at fault or not, but when hearing this story, the person with the biggest fault is you.
All results are causable, nothing happens naturally. In this relationship, I have done nothing to improve it. The way I choose to endure with the hope of being loved, but that is not the solution".
