In many Vietnamese marriages, there is a not-so-regular phenomenon: men feel that their wives are increasingly angry, harsh, and selfish, completely different from the image of gentleness and sweetness in love. The emotions cool down, the conflict suppresses, and the ending is divorce. It is worth mentioning that even when entering a new marriage, the same situation repeats itself. So where is the real problem?
The answer may make many men startled: women were not born to become angels in the eyes of their husbands, they became like that when living in love, kindness and understanding.
1. Treat your wife like she is an angel
Women are like flowers - will bloom brilliantly when watered with love. But unfortunately, many men forget that after getting married. They still consider their wives as "must-be brave", have to suffer, have to sacrifice, and by mistake believe that women who are wives will have to... be less dreamy, less weak, and less need to be cared for.
They did not understand that it was their indifference, indifference, and giving-up that made the woman who was once sacred and gentle, gradually become a " tireless warrior", a woman who was always harsh because she no longer had the strength to be gentle.
A smart man would not ask, Why did my wife change? but would ask, What did I do (or dont do) that made her become like that?.
2. Don't turn your wife into a shadow or a blooming machine
Women are not born to live a comfortable life. Being a mother is a civil servant, but that does not mean that her whole life has to revolve around her children, following her husband's wishes or meeting the expectations of her husband's family.
When a man does not listen to his wife's feelings and wishes, only considers her as a means of giving birth, taking care of children, and taking care of food and drink, do not hope to receive the gentleness or dedication.
Every woman has had her own dreams, had someone chase, had many choices and finally, they chose their husband. That choice deserves to be respected, not controlled.
3. Arguing is the foundation of love, tolerance is the glue that keeps marriage
Patience does not mean suffering. Instead, it is perseverance in love, understanding that: no one is perfect, and marriage is a long journey with all kinds of emotions.
When his wife is angry, a mature man will not rush to judge, but calmly observe: What pressure is his wife under? Is there anything I have accidentally forgotten? And if it is true that the anger comes from fatigue, self-pity or the desire to listen, a handshake, a gentle word, even a home-cooked meal can make a woman feel soft.
A wife does not need a perfect husband, but they always need someone who understands her best even when she is at her worst.
Gentle women are not because they are good at enduring, but because they are confident enough to be weak and weak.
An "angels' wife" is the result of love, not a prerequisite for a husband to love. If you want your wife to be gentle, feminine, cheerful, caring... then don't force her to "gold herself" to become that way.
Create a safe enough space for her to be herself. And remember: a wife who knows how to love her husband and take care of her family is not natural, it is a blessing that a man needs to preserve with both kindness and responsibility.
