From the murder case in Dong Nai that shook society in recent days, many questions have also been raised about the responsibility and orientation of parents towards their children when they are in love.
Many parents have repeatedly expressed their "powerlessness" when their children are immature, disobedient and have difficulty controlling their behavior, especially when their children reach the age of getting to know and falling in love.
Ms. Pham Thu Trang (from Hanoi), has 2 daughters in puberty - 16 and 14 years old. In addition to caring about her children's education, Ms. Trang also pays attention to both psychological and emotional issues of her children. "My point of view is that parents need to be their children's companions on the road to life. Generation Z now has a lifestyle and thinking different from the 7X - 8X era, so the way of teaching children must also be different" - Ms. Trang expressed.
According to Ms. Trang, parents should not teach in a way that prohibits, children strictly listen to the arrangements of adults: "With my 2 children, my husband and I also have to choose a way to teach our children, from studying to communicating outside, each lesson or experience can be through events that happen in life".
In particular, Ms. Trang's eldest daughter Nguyen Thai An is now 16 years old, so having feelings or the need to find a boyfriend is normal at a dreamy age. However, both Ms. Trang and her husband try to closely follow, guide and help their child equip themselves with skills to recognize relationships as well as knowledge to protect themselves.
No parent is not worried when their children reach the age of dating and getting to know their boyfriends. My husband and I are also like that, but we are determined not to forbid them to be afraid, but to always be friends for them to trust and be ready to share everything when needed.
We are also frank when discussing psychology and physiology, or things that children are curious about at that age so that they understand and know how to say "no" to things they are not ready for" - Ms. Trang said.
Ms. Trang's family also creates conditions and encourages children to invite friends to come home to play, eat and study. This time also helps parents observe and learn about their children's friends but still respect privacy so that young people do not feel that they are under control.
Ms. Trang also emphasized that there are many ways for 2 generations to be closer to each other, shorten the distance between parents and children by reducing anxiety, trust and giving more decision-making power to children.
