In episode 19 of the program "What I want to say", little Quynh Anh brought a secret box with a card with the words "Dad = Mom". It seemed like a simple message about family affection, but behind it was a story that moved many people.
When asked about her wishes, Quynh Anh frankly said that she loves her mother more because her father is often very strict and often scolds her. Not only when she makes mistakes, but even in unintentional situations like when her younger brother mischievously hurts her, she is still the one who is blamed.
What made the studio silent was when Quynh Anh softly shared: "I explained a lot but dad doesn't believe me".
According to her mother, when she was in 1st grade, Quynh Anh was an active girl, often telling school stories to her family. However, the older she gets, the less she shares. Currently, mothers mainly know about their children's stories through friends instead of listening to their own confidences.
Not only withdrawn, Quynh Anh also formed a habit of hiding negative emotions for fear of being continued to scold by her father. Although very affectionate, she often chooses to remain silent whenever she is hurt and waits for everything to calm down before actively making peace.
The mother also could not hide her concern when talking about her husband's parenting method. She said that he often uses harsh words when angry and sees it as an unbreakable habit. What makes her even sadder is that that strictness seems to be only for girls, while for boys it is gentler.
Although Quynh Anh has a talent for painting and often draws pictures of her family, she rarely receives praise from her father. Meanwhile, her mother is always the one who encourages and motivates her spirit.
Listening to the story, psychologist Dr. Dao Le Hoa An said that the problem is not that the father intentionally does not love his children, but that he is placing more faith in his own perspective and experience.
Raising a child is like sowing a seed, the land must be suitable to bloom and bear fruit," the male PhD shared.
According to him, many parents today often only focus on whether their children are right or wrong, forgetting the more important thing, which is to build confidence and a sense of security for children. When constantly being suspected or not being listened to, children will easily develop a psychology of withdrawal and self-defense.
Oc Thanh Van also expressed sympathy for her family and hoped that the father could change the way he expresses love. According to the female MC, sometimes just spending time listening and trusting her child is enough to shorten the gap in the family.
