Many parents always want their children to consciously study, clean toys themselves, do housework themselves or be proactive in daily life. However, in reality, many families have to repeat it repeatedly, making parents tired and children react negatively.
According to psychologists, children are not conscious not necessarily because they are lazy, but mostly because they have not formed a habit, do not understand responsibility and lack internal motivation. If parents scold or reward and punish excessively, children easily do it because they are afraid and not really conscious.
Below are 5 important things to help children become more self-aware, parents should apply them as soon as possible.
1. Assign responsibility appropriate to age
Many parents want their children to be self-disciplined but assign too difficult or too many tasks. Children are easily discouraged and give up. Start with small things like taking their own sandals, putting their clothes in the basket, and cleaning their toys after playing. When they do it, children will be more confident and proactive.
2. Set clear and consistent rules
Young children really need stability. If parents allow it today and ban it tomorrow, children will not understand what the principle is. Setting clear rules such as "watch TV and turn it off", "eat and clean dishes" will help children form a self-awareness habit.
3. Praise at the right time instead of just criticizing when children are wrong
A compliment at the right time is much more effective than scolding. When children do small things, parents should acknowledge them so that they feel their efforts are valuable. From there, children have the motivation to do it themselves without being reminded.
4. Set an example for children in daily life
Children learn the most through observation. If parents are often procrastinating, messy, or working on time, children will also easily develop similar habits. Conversely, when parents live neatly, on time, and are responsible, children will gradually imitate.
5. Give children the right to choose so that they feel respected
Instead of giving orders, parents can let their children choose within the framework. For example, if the child wants to do homework first or take a shower first, wants to clean up toys in 5 minutes or 10 minutes. When given a choice, children will feel they have the right to decide and cooperate more.
Helping children to be conscious is not forcing them to follow their parents' wishes, but building habits and motivation from within. When parents are patient and apply it correctly, children will gradually change and become more proactive every day.
