Ms. Trang recounted that the first 10 years of her life passed in fullness and happiness. As an only child, she received complete love from both her father and mother. Her father lived in the countryside, then went to Ho Chi Minh City to start a business, helping the family gradually stabilize their lives.
However, the upheaval happened when she was about 10 years old, after a big argument from her parents overnight. That was also the turning point that completely changed her life.
After that day, everything seemed normal. But not long after, when I came home from school, I saw the house empty, things disappeared, and all 13 dogs were gone," Ms. Trang recalled. At that time, she was too young, she did not understand what was happening, only clearly felt loss and anxiety.
Her parents then divorced in silence. She was not notified directly, nor was she present in court. Much later, she learned that the family's last trip was actually a period of reconciliation before breaking up. Her mother did not request anything other than custody of the child, while her father only fulfilled the obligation to provide alimony for a short time and then stopped completely.
The father's absence, especially at important milestones such as birthdays, made the distance between the two fathers and sons increasing. "I was angry and decided to cut off contact with my father from then on," Ms. Trang shared.
When she grew up, she gradually learned more about the hidden corners behind her parents' broken marriage. Her father was in debt, had a different relationship from before and left many consequences that her mother had to bear. Even, she once received a call from her father's second wife - an experience that made her more confused but also unable to confirm the whole truth.
After many years of no contact, the father suddenly texted to inquire. Ms. Trang once hoped this was an opportunity to mend her relationship. However, she quickly realized the real purpose related to resolving the alimony lawsuit. "I once wanted to pursue the lawsuit to the end, but then decided to stop," she said.
She also admitted that there was a time when she wanted to "take revenge" by going to her father's new family to tell everything. But in the end, she chose to let go. "I don't want my life to continue to be dragged into old things," she expressed.
Currently, Ms. Trang is in a relationship lasting nearly 5 years and is starting to think about getting married. However, the memory of a broken family makes her afraid of repeating her parents' mistakes. The differences in thinking between her and her boyfriend make the anxiety even greater.
Sharing about this case, psychologist To Nhi A said that fear is natural, but should not become a barrier. The important thing is to learn to dialogue, see the problem clearly instead of avoiding or reacting extremely.
Closing the story, Ms. Trang said she is gradually learning to let go of the past to move forward. "Although I have experienced many things, I still believe I can have a good future," she said.
