Many people have the habit of respecting one person or another, so often when someone asks for something, they will not refuse anything but try to do it so as not to disappoint them.
However, being good at something other person's job is very negative. This problem will often hold you back so that you cannot reach your full potential. Because they are afraid that when they are excited, when they stand out, they will "surpass" someone and make the whole person unhappy.
Working to please people over time can weaken physical and mental resources, can make the body fall into a state of stress and anxiety, can negatively affect one's health because one person is always afraid that one person will hate him, afraid that the other person will be uncomfortable.
So how to stop being a piece of the cake and become a person who pleases everyone?
draw a mindmap before making any decisions
You can speak abruptly, so this is the time for you to learn to make a quick mind map in mind before making any decisions. Analyze yourself and give at least four branches and try to find at least two reasons why you should say yes and two reasons why you should say no.
Confidently understand yourself but not arrogant
Many people have the way of thinking that the best way to express themselves is to please everyone, when everyone agrees with everything they ask for or demand. They are self-conscious, shy and do not dare to express themselves directly but have to indirectly accept someone's favor.
Change immediately, if you have the ability, there is no need for others to confirm through that way. Prioritize yourself, spend time for your own purposes, and make it a priority to please everyone. Remember that you deserve time for yourself.
Learn to say no to small things
If you keep complaining, both respecting one person and the other, being caught up in the cycle of trying to please others is obvious and you will forget who you want to be.
Practice saying no to small things that do not concern you. The schedule says no to doing homework to help someone or lend a car to someone else and then walking.
