Signs of Unrealistic Expectations in Marriage
Bà Kamna Chibber - Head of Department of Mental Health and Behavioural Sciences at Fortis Healthcare Hospital (India) - stated that having unrealistic expectations of your partner in the long run can ruin your relationship. Instead, being able to understand the limitations of your partner can lead to a more fulfilling relationship.
Unrealistic expectations in a relationship include:
- Thinking that they will change for you (because that means they love you).
- Thinking that they only need to know what you need without you having to say it.
- Thinking that you must love everything about both of you.
- Thinking that love and passion will last forever without any effort or intention.
- Thinking that they will perfect you and ultimately bring the happiness you have been patiently waiting for.
According to Bà Kamna Chibber, each person has expectations from their partner in any relationship. However, if these expectations are set without considering the ability of the other person, the situations and circumstances of life, they can become unrealistic because your partner may not be able to meet them.
Consequences of Having Too Many Expectations from Your Partner
Bà Kamna Chibber analyzed that unrealistic expectations can lead to feelings of dissatisfaction, continuous disappointment, and ultimately anger, resentment, and unhappiness.
It can lead to more conflicts and have a negative impact on communication between the two. At the same time, it can make people feel that they may not be the best in the relationship and make them question themselves and how they can maintain their relationships.
Bà Kamna Chibber shares what to do to ensure you do not have unrealistic expectations from your partner:
- Be willing to realistically evaluate your expectations.
- Consider the ability of the other person.
- Recognize that you need to be responsible for your own happiness and satisfaction and do not let that become a burden for the other person.
- Be willing to engage in a conversation with the other person to understand what they can do.
- Try not to demand all your needs on a relationship.
