Actress Lan Phuong - a woman famous for her bright smile and many emotional roles - recently publicly announced that she had unilaterally filed for divorce from her foreign husband since May. Before that, she had a period of depression after giving birth to her second child, because she had to take care of her child alone while her husband worked away from home.
That particular story, although not noisy, makes many women silent because they see themselves in it - mothers who have experienced the moment of giving birth and raising children in loneliness to the end.
Pregnancy and childbirth are always considered the most fragile periods in a woman's life. It was not only a painful physical journey but also a great mental shock: from an independent woman to a mother, you have to commit 24/7 to a flexible life, exhausted in both sleep and emotions. If the husband is not there - not only by presence but also by understanding and sharing, the woman seems to fall into a large void of hurt.
A hug late at night, a helping hand changing diapers, a word of comfort when the mother cries in a low voice - sometimes the only thing that keeps the union bond under the pressure of childbirth and postpartum. But if everyone is away, the wife will gradually learn to do everything herself, and can also learn to continue living without the other person.
Many marriages are not "divided" because of "the third person", but " disrupted" because of "the first person" when the woman feels that she is no longer seen or loved as before. And that happens most clearly when they have children.
Many men consider "working to make money" as enough, forgetting that love cannot be transferred, and cannot be replaced by material things. A word of encouragement, a voice of "I understand", a dinner with a wife and children - sometimes worth more than a lavish vacation. But when those small things are gone, marriage becomes empty. And women will be the first to touch the bottom.
Lan Phuong called the divorce decision "a salvation". That is not a harsh statement, but the truth of many women who are struggling to carry emotions, swallowing tears to keep the covering of their marriage even though deep down in their hearts they have been lonely for a long time.
No one forces a husband to be perfect or all-powerful, but when entering married life - especially when having children - being present both physically and mentally is a must. Women don't need a hero, they need a partner. People who are by my side in times of weakness. People who know they are tired. The person said "let me do it for you".
A family is only lasting when the root is true love and that love must be nurtured through daily actions. When a man chooses to leave both physically and emotionally, the family, sooner or later, is in trouble.
The marriage did not break down because of big waves, but because of the water leaking every day. And women, once they learn to live alone, will no longer wait.
