According to Sohu, in modern Chinese society, the saying "Getting married and starting a business" is still often mentioned as two important goals in life.
However, for many people, especially those over the age of 30, finding a partner and building a family is becoming an increasingly difficult challenge.
The story of Mr. Li, a 41-year-old man from Gansu province, China, clearly reflects this situation.
"I'm 41 years old this year, I have no hope of getting married anymore in this life. I'm very sorry to my parents," Mr. Ly shared on Sohu with a sad voice.
He said that although his family and friends are worried and try to help, finding a partner at this age is still too difficult. "Everyone was worried about me, but there was no use in worrying. I finally realized that this is how it was going to be for the rest of my life."
Coming from a rural area, Mr. Ly constantly tries to build a life for himself. Through the process of hard work and accumulation, he built a house in the village and bought a cheap car to get around. "But the only difference is that I still don't have a family," he said.
After being introduced many times and participating in dates and blind dates, he still hasn't found the right person. Mr. Ly shared: "I tried to get along with the people I introduced. But most dates failed for the same two reasons."
According to him, the first reason is due to his limited communication ability. He admits that he is not a good communicator. "Usually, we'll go out to dinner once, and then the girl will tell me we're not compatible," he recalls.
The second reason is related to financial issues. According to him, most modern women, before entering an official marriage, especially when he is at this age, have high financial requirements. However, Mr. Ly admitted that he was just an ordinary farmer, his income could not satisfy them.
Mr. Ly's story is not an isolated case. Many sociological experts believe that late marriage is becoming a challenge not only for men but also for women.
Ms. Tran, a marriage and family consultant, commented: "When young, both men and women often find it easier to find and build relationships. Young women are easily influenced by emotions and make relationships. Kissing for love. Meanwhile, young men often have more opportunities if they actively pursue them. However, as they age, the requirements and expectations also become more stringent."
Ms. Tran also pointed out that: "At the age of 30-40, it is often difficult for women to find someone who makes their hearts flutter. Meanwhile, men have to face higher standards in terms of family and living conditions. communication skills".
Mr. Ly's story is not just a personal case, but also reflects a broader social issue, emphasizing the importance of building relationships and accomplishing life goals early.
It also raises questions about social pressure to get married and how society can support middle-aged singles.
At the end of the conversation, Mr. Ly confided: "I have accepted that this may be the way I will live for the remaining years of my life. I no longer have much hope about getting married and starting a family." "The thing that makes me feel most sorry is for my parents."
