In families, when children are young, teaching and caring for them is quite convenient, with fewer conflicts and disagreements. However, as children grow up, have their own thoughts and habits, disagreements with parents also begin to appear.
Many conflicts arise from very small things in daily life, but if prolonged, it will make the gap between members increasing.
Mr. Tran Van Tuan (43 years old, from Thai Nguyen) said that his son, who is 14 years old this year, has changed a lot in his way of communicating with his family.
If in the past, the boy often told school stories, now he is less talkative, mainly in his private room.
Initially, Mr. Tuan thought that it was just a normal expression. However, the conversations between father and son became shorter and shorter, even easily turning into tension and arguments.
There are times when I just ask about studying, but he thinks I am putting pressure and controlling him," Mr. Tuan shared.
According to Mr. Tuan, conflicts often originate from seemingly very simple sentences. A reminder about studying, or a question about exam plans can also make children react.
If I don't ask, I worry, but if I ask, it's easy to become uncomfortable and argumentative. Many times I don't even know how to say it appropriately," Mr. Tuan said.
Similarly, Ms. Nguyen Thi Hanh (39 years old, from Tuyen Quang) also has difficulty maintaining contact with her 14-year-old daughter.
Ms. Hanh said that disagreements often stem from very ordinary activities such as dressing, going out, or using a phone.
When I give advice, she thinks I'm imposing. Once she said bluntly that her mother always thinks she is wrong, she is really worried and sad," Ms. Hanh confided.
The atmosphere in the family often becomes tense from just one sentence. After each time like that, her daughter often limits talking, and she also falls into a state of confusion.
Reality shows that as children grow up, the need to be self-determined and respected becomes increasingly clear.
Meanwhile, parents still maintain the old habit of caring, easily making their children feel interfered with.
Differences in thinking and expression, if not adjusted, will make daily exchanges conflicting. If not thoroughly resolved, conflicts will prolong and affect family life.
According to psychologists, it is necessary to avoid exchanging and arguing when angry. When the psychology has calmed down, the conversation will be easier to enter listening and understanding.
Parents, let your child say everything they think, without interrupting or denying their feelings or actions. Be willing to apologize, admit when you behave inappropriately, helping your child feel respected.
Need to ask your child for their opinion on how to handle the situation so that both can agree. Create an open communication environment, encourage and motivate your child to share regularly, avoid accumulating conflicts.
