Changing the approach in love
In the modern pace of life, many people are hesitant to patiently wait for a suitable relationship or actively seek opportunities to connect. Each choice reflects different life views and personal experiences.
Ms. Nguyen Thu Trang (26 years old, Hanoi) said that she once believed that love is fate, so she was just waiting for the right person to appear.
I thought that if I lived well, the right person would come. But after a long time without any clear relationships, I started to feel passive and a bit isolated," Ms. Trang shared.
After deciding to change, Ms. Thu Trang actively participated in social activities and expanded her relationships.
When I became more open, I realized that there would be more opportunities to meet people with the same views on life. At that time, I realized that fate is not just waiting but also created by myself," Ms. Trang said.
Meanwhile, Mr. Tran Minh Duc (27 years old, Hai Phong) chose a balanced approach. He believes that proactiveness is necessary, but should not be hasty.
I am still expanding relationships, meeting family and friends but not forcing myself to love. If it is not suitable, I am willing to wait," Mr. Minh Duc shared.
Many people today easily fall into anxious psychology when they see friends around them getting married. This makes them make hasty decisions, leading to unsustainable relationships.
Love is a combination of proactiveness and willingness
According to Ms. Le Phuong - Director of the Center for Psychology and Human Development of NHC Vietnam (Quan Hoa Branch) - the concept of fate is often simply understood as the coincidence or arrangement of fate. However, from a psychological perspective, this is the result of many combined factors.
“Affinity is not only about luck in meeting someone, but also about proactiveness and willingness. When each person is mature enough and expands relationships, the chance of meeting the right person will be higher," expert Le Phuong said.
Besides, self-development and building a connecting environment help each person easily meet people with the same life values. However, proactiveness does not mean rushing. "Waiting is patience to choose the right person, not accepting an inappropriate relationship just because of pressure," Ms. Le Phuong emphasized.
According to psychologists, a sustainable relationship needs similarities in value, communication skills and feelings of security when together.
Waiting for fate and creating fate are not opposite. Each person needs to both actively improve themselves and be patient in choosing. Then, fate is no longer a coincidence but the result of a conscious process," expert Le Phuong shared.
