Anh K and his wife M officially got married after a period of sweet romance. At the time of marriage, both were 20 years old and worked as bar servers. After living together, the couple welcomed two children, "full and thin" as they say.
According to Anh K, the family was still happy until they started a chicken rice business; when they developed two branches of the restaurant, Anh K discovered his wife had an paramour.
Witnessing his wife's neglect of their business, constantly making excuses to go out with friends, Anh K began to suspect, while his wife M denied having anyone else.
As a hot-tempered person, Anh K unintentionally "physically affected" his wife after a failed interrogation.
Since the conflict, Anh K said his wife M still "had her own problems," neglecting their business, and continuing to hang out with friends. He even heard from neighbors that his wife was often picked up by a strange man. One time, after his wife M returned home, Anh K "physically affected" her, causing her to hold their daughter and go to their second business branch.
Although Anh K intended to persuade his wife M to return, after a few attempts, witnessing his wife M being intimate with a man at a barbecue restaurant made him unable to control himself. "I ran to grab her hand and asked her to go home, but she brought a boiling hot pot and splashed it on me," Anh K recounted.
Anh K was also upset when his wife went back to her hometown and slandered him. "My wife said I beat her to death, but I didn't beat her that much, I just slapped her a few times," Anh K said.
Anh K repeatedly questioned why, after more than 20 years of marriage, his wife had been unfaithful; despite the advice from both families, their marriage was still unable to be saved. His wife M filed for divorce. They went to court and have been divorced for nearly 3 years.
Listening to Anh K's story, director Lê Hoàng bluntly stated that Anh K was not a perfect husband. "You don't have a high education, your income is not high, you don't come from a wealthy family, so you need to re-evaluate yourself. Even you have a history of domestic violence, in the program you said you didn't hit your wife hard, but if she said you physically affected her very strongly, how can you defend yourself? I feel that you're not a perfect husband," the director expressed.
In response to Lê Hoàng's opinion, Anh K admitted that his past girlfriends had said he had a tendency towards violence and hot temper.
Lê Hoàng continued to explain Anh K's violent tendencies: "There are two types of violence, physical violence, and verbal violence. If a couple just talks to each other, 'you this, I that,' I think that's a very terrible form of violence, with no love left. I think divorce is the right decision, but I don't agree that the reason for the divorce is entirely due to the wife.
You just blame your wife for being unfaithful, but I think most of it lies with you, one side hits and the other side is unfaithful, then I think the violence is heavier. Hitting a woman leaves a very terrible wound in the heart, try to imagine being next to someone who has hit you, how can anyone bear it?"
Lê Hoàng was also upset by Anh K's lack of concern for his daughter. According to him, Anh K is currently raising his son who is about to enter university, while his daughter is being taken care of by her grandmother in the countryside. However, since Anh K and his wife divorced, Anh K has not met his daughter, occasionally sending 2 million VND and asking about her over the phone.
