He nodded: In the past, I was just like you, I had many fears. From the fear of high school, knowing the answer the teacher asked, not daring to raise my hand. When being called on to answer a question, my heart was pounding, my face was red, and I often couldn't speak. Then I was afraid of my grandfather beating me, afraid of my grandmother scolding me, afraid of being bullied by the kids in the upper class on the way home.
Growing up and going to college, I was afraid of many things. Afraid of not being attractive enough to have a boyfriend, afraid of being rejected when confessing my feelings, afraid of not passing the graduation exam, afraid of not having a job after graduating.
When I got a job and went to work, I thought my fear would go away, but it increased. I was afraid of not having a place in the company, afraid of not being able to meet the requirements of my superiors, afraid of my colleagues stealing my project, afraid of my wife when I got home, afraid of my neighbor...
Middle age, the most feared thing is grandparents getting sick... and if something happens, I'm afraid I won't be able to bear it. The doctor at the hospital told my father: Everyone wants their parents to live to 200 years old, but birth-aging-sickness-death is the law of life.
Until one day, a friend of my father came back after many years of studying meditation in India to talk. And then, my father changed completely. Actually, there is nothing wrong with fear. Because fear makes us try to do everything better from preparation to implementation. Fear also helps warn people of danger, potential risks...
But fearing too much will damage your mental health, leading to physical health being dangerous. Not to mention there are baseless fears that "worry about things that have not happened yet, but only think about bad situations... And my father has let go of many fears, has far-sighted thoughts but is flexible in responding to all situations.
The daughter smiled: I see that dad is not afraid of anything!
The father shook his head: If you don't know how to be afraid, it's also dangerous, because you can go to extremes and do anything regardless of the immediate and long-term consequences. It's okay to be afraid, but then you have to have a solution.
Then he sighed: I have a fear of losing myself at any time. So you see, every morning I look in the mirror and ask myself: Who am I?
