From Nameless Relationship to emotional appropriation
A 25-year-old girl named Minh Trang (Ba Dinh, Hanoi) had been in a relationship that lasted nearly 2 years with a guy who kept saying "I'm not ready to seriously love".
He did not name the relationship, avoided all long-term plans, but asked her to stay by her side, stay loyal and show discomfort every time she spent time with male friends.
He said he didnt want to be tied down, but when he got to know someone new, he showed jealousy and questioned them, then went to work to cause trouble, Minh Trang shared.
A similar case occurred with Linh Chi (Dong Da, Hanoi). After nearly 1 year of dating a man 8 years older than her, even though he is not officially a lover, Linh Chi still tries to maintain a fragile connection.
"Seeing that the relationship was not fruitful, I decided to stop and open my heart to someone new. Unexpectedly, he sent threatening messages, using the name of his ex-lover to interfere in his private life, Linh Chi sadly recounted.
According to psychologists, such vague but controllable relationships are a form of unhealthy emotional possession. People involved are easily exhausted, skeptical and gradually lose themselves.
If it is not tied, it cannot be called love
Talking to reporters, Dr. Pham Thi Thuy - lecturer at the Regional II Academy of Politics - commented that the concept of "un bound love" is a popular term today, especially among young people. However, according to her, in essence, it is not true love.
"If there are no constraints, it cannot be called love. It is just dating, getting to know each other or a type of affection similar to love, the expert affirmed.
According to Dr. Pham Thi Thuy, relationships that lack a clear direction often make one person easily offended, leading to hurt when expectations are not rewarded.
Dr. Pham Thi Thuy also believes that the best solution is to increase communication, proactively and frankly exchanging about personal emotions, expectations and limitations. A relationship can only develop if both sides are clear about their position and know what they are looking for.
Sometimes, you can be moved, you can love, but the important thing is not to let emotions temporarily overwhelm your reason. Don't rush to confirm a relationship without consensus and clarity from both sides," the expert emphasized.
