As the time approaches the announcement of high school graduation exam scores, the atmosphere in many families becomes even more tense. Besides the candidates, many parents also feel nervous, worried and hope their children achieve the expected results.
Ms. Dang Thi Binh (Giang Vo ward, Hanoi) said that as her child's exam results are about to be announced, she is always in a state of waiting, restless.
In recent days, I have been anxious, not daring to ask my child too much because I am afraid of her pressure, but in my heart I am very anxious. I just hope my child has stable results, worthy of 12 years of studying so that both mother and child can feel lighter," Ms. Binh shared.
Similarly, Mr. Nguyen Van Minh (Quang Ninh) said that these days the family always finds ways to reduce pressure on their children.
I always encourage my child to keep a comfortable spirit. The family also takes the child out to play, changes the atmosphere to relax, just hoping the child achieves the desired results," Mr. Minh said.
Psychologist Hoang Anh - Voice of Therapist Office - said that the time waiting for the announcement of high school graduation exam scores is the period when many parents fall into the most stressful state.
Parents' anxiety is often expressed through anticipation, constant updating of information, insomnia, irritability, and frequently asking children about results or accidentally mentioning family expectations.
“From a psychological perspective, this is a understandable reaction because parents always want the best for their children. However, studies on emotional contagion show that parents' emotions can spread to their children through words, facial expressions, attitudes and the atmosphere in the family... When parents are more anxious, children are more likely to increase stress, even though they themselves do not know the outcome,” said the psychologist.
Psychologist Hoang Anh also believes that, according to Attachment Theory, parents are the "safe support" for their children.
“If that fulcrum loses its composure, children will also feel more insecure before an event that is already stressful. Therefore, what children need in this period is not pressure from expectations but a calm presence and the feeling of being unconditionally loved,” the psychologist emphasized.
According to experts, instead of constantly asking about the results or showing impatience and anxiety, parents should maintain a positive atmosphere in the family, encourage their children to rest, live normally and prepare themselves to welcome all results. This not only makes children less stressed but also creates a sense of security, helping them feel more confident when entering this important milestone.
