In a conversation with MC Dinh Toan and psychologist To Nhi A, Ms. Tuyet Mai recounted the first time she met Mr. Van Lai on the birthday of her boss - a compatriot of his. Her initial impression was his strange white white hair, while Mr. Van Lai remembered Mai's innocence and carefree. However, the two only really started talking and became close after meeting again nearly a year later. On Ms. Tuyet Mai's birthday, Mr. Van Lai proposed and officially started a relationship.
When the relationship was new, both had to go through a period of social separation. Unable to meet in person, online conversations become the only "connector" but also cause many conflicts. The small conflicts gradually escalated, leading to the decision to break up.
After the breakup ended, Ms. Tuyet Mai proactively contacted Mr. Van Lai to ask if he wanted to continue or not. After a week of thinking, he chose to come back but this time with a straightforward offer: "When I come back, I will definitely get married".
At the end of that year, the wedding took place. However, married life is not always peaceful. The couple often argue about seemingly very small things such as clothes left in the bathroom, unwashed bowls and chopsticks or the husband's cleverness.
Mr. Van Lai admitted that he often forgets, while his wife focuses on details, leading to many stresses. Ms. Mai said that what made her tired was not the cleaning, but the feeling of having to repeat reminders. It was only when she was pregnant that Mr. Van Lai gradually changed to share housework, but that change still needed more time.
Dr. To Nhi A commented that although small, accumulated details can become a "last straw". She emphasized that Mr. Van Lai's change during his wife's pregnancy shows that he is capable of sharing and needs to maintain that, not only for his wife but also for his daughter who is growing up and learning from her parents.
Another issue that the audience is interested in is the story of Mr. Van Lai once asking his wife to quit his job. Ms. Tuyet Mai said that she really loves behind-the-scenes work in the field of communication, which brings her joy and a sense of success. Quitting her job is not only a loss of income but also an emotional loss. This also caused conflicts between the two.
Mr. Van Lai explained that the reason he made this request came from worrying that work could affect his family life. However, after many experiences, he admitted that his previous thoughts were still immature and now more mature.
The conversation ended in an open atmosphere. After three years of living together, the two learned many lessons about how to harmonize, share and put a common home above daily differences.
