Appearing in the program "Marriage Detective", Huynh Nga shared about her life as a daughter-in-law far from home and her special marriage with Mr. Hanh. Currently, she and her husband are doing freelance business, working on social networking platforms and training in short video production.
Nga and Hanh met around May or June 2020. At that time, Nga was studying pharmacy in Ho Chi Minh City, and also selling goods online with Hanh's older sister. After Nga posted a sad post on Facebook, the older sister tagged her younger brother's name to connect the two.
Hanh actively texted and after a month of chatting, the two decided to get to know each other. In the first meeting, Nga was impressed by the gentle, taciturn appearance of the Thanh Hoa guy. Although not a good person in expressing affection, he still actively packed his luggage and took care of her.
Hanh also frankly said that she had no house, car or property in hand. If they got married, they would both start and try together. The sincerity made Nga agree to get married even though she was only 21 years old and Hanh was 25 years old at that time.
Before getting married, the two only met directly three times. Nga's family initially opposed it because they felt sorry for their daughter having to get married too far away. Her mother was also worried about the differences in lifestyle between the Mekong Delta and North Central Vietnam.
However, after Hanh returned to An Giang, the family gradually changed their minds. The Thanh Hoa boy was not afraid to help everyone, including the work in the fields. Seeing him gentle and loving to Nga, the family agreed to marry their daughter.
The couple's wedding was held in 2021, just as the epidemic became complicated. Just one day before the wedding, the family received a blockade notice, preventing Nga's relatives from going to Thanh Hoa.
The two sides still prepared the tray of fruits and performed all the rituals but connected with each other through the TV screen. Before welcoming the bride, Nga sat alone at her sister-in-law's house. When someone asked why she married far away but her parents could not attend the wedding, she burst into tears of self-pity.
A year later, when the epidemic was controlled, the two families re-organized a full wedding to compensate for the young couple.
In her early days as a daughter-in-law, Nga encountered many difficulties due to cultural differences, even crying at times. In her hometown, meeting adults, just nodding and smiling is considered a greeting. In Thanh Hoa, she had to greet loudly and invite each person before eating.
Taste is also a challenge when Nga is used to eating sweets, while the food at her husband's house is blander. She cannot eat bitter leaf soup. Realizing that her daughter-in-law doesn't like any dish, her parents-in-law always prepare more meat, eggs or separate dishes so she doesn't have to starve.
For five years of living together, her parents-in-law took on most of the housework. When Nga became pregnant and gave birth, her mother-in-law closely followed and took care of her, staying up all night to breastfeed her grandchild. Her father-in-law was in charge of cooking nutritious dishes for his daughter-in-law.
Daughters-in-law must be loved like daughters. Grandparents are far away, so we are both paternal grandparents and maternal grandparents," Nga's father-in-law said.
At the beginning of this year, Nga and her husband moved out to live separately in a three-story house about 5 minutes by car from her parents-in-law's house. Every day, they still come to look after their grandchildren and cook meals when the couple is busy working.
Nga admitted that there were times when she missed home, felt sorry for herself and thought about returning to Ho Chi Minh City. However, the tolerance of her husband's family helped her have more support. For her, her husband and parents-in-law have made the once strange land a real home.
