Many parents have been confused when their children suddenly get angry when they are playing happily, throwing things, throwing toys just because they are not allowed to buy the item they like or being reminded. Many people immediately scold, thinking that their children are rude, spoiled. But in reality, this behavior often stems from a deeper cause: the child does not have enough skills to control emotions.
According to child psychologists, young children often express emotions through actions because they cannot use words to express disappointment, anger or helplessness. When children throw things, it may be a sign that they are emotionally "overloaded".
Why did you throw things when you were not satisfied?
Children often throw things when they feel they are not being responded to or have their control taken away. For adults, it's just a small matter, but for children, the feeling of disappointment is very great. If children have not learned to calm down, they will react instinctively.
In addition, some children throw things because they have seen adults get angry, smash things, yell. Children learn from that behavior without understanding right or wrong.
Parents who handle their children wrongly will become even more "explosive
If parents scold, slap, or insult their children right when they are angry, they will become more agitated. Children may throw harder, cry longer, or become stubborn.
More dangerously, if this behavior is ignored or indulged, children will understand that just throwing things will achieve what they want.
How to handle things correctly when children throw things
The most important thing is to stay calm. Parents need to prevent their children from causing danger by keeping a distance from hard objects, then saying briefly and clearly: "Don't throw things. Throwing things is hurting others".
When your child has calmed down, help them call out their emotions: "You're angry, aren't you?" This helps children learn to recognize and control emotions instead of triggering them with actions.
Parents also need to set clear limits: if a child throws a toy, the toy will be put away for a while. This is a way to teach children to be responsible without violence.
More importantly, teach your child how to vent anger safely such as deep breathing, squeezing soft balls, or saying "I'm angry".
Children do not naturally know how to restrain themselves. Parents' calmness is the biggest lesson for children to learn to be calm.
