Sharing in the Third Person Program, Ms. X said that she met that man when they were both very young. At that time, he had not married and promised to marry her after finishing school and stabilizing his job. Coming from the countryside, with limited education, she had absolute trust and accepted waiting in silence. For many years, the man continuously delayed for various reasons: not having conditions, family not agreeing, having to study far away...
At that time, there was no phone, the two only contacted by letters. Mrs. X quietly waited, not knowing that during the "schooling" period, he had started a family, had a wife and a son. The man still went back and forth with her, continuing to fabricate the story that the family had gone abroad, only he stayed because he loved her. After that, he held a simple wedding with Mrs. X, without the presence of the groom's family. The two lived together and had a daughter together.
The tragedy only really broke out in harsh circumstances. When Mrs. X's daughter was hospitalized due to serious illness, she called her husband for help, and the person who answered the phone was... his legal wife. The next day, not the man appeared at the hospital but the official wife, requesting Mrs. X to end the relationship if she did not want everything to be "made big".
The husband's family continuously puts pressure, while the man is completely silent, not making any clear decisions. Commenting on the story, director Le Hoang said: "Legally, you are called a third person. But emotionally, you are the one who came first. This is not just an affair, but a prolonged irresponsibility of a man.
According to Le Hoang, the biggest mistake is not that a man marries someone else, but that he is not decisive: "If he is brave enough, he must tell the truth so that the woman has the opportunity to rebuild her life.
Not understanding the law, and living in a prejudiced environment, Mrs. X thought she was at fault. She took her child out of her hometown to Dong Nai to work as a hired laborer, selling clothes to earn a living. The support from the man gradually diminished and then almost disappeared. For many years, she lived quietly, not daring to tell her family, not daring to explain to neighbors, and not daring to think about personal happiness.
At the age of 60, Mrs. X is still living alone. Her daughter is now 32 years old, grown up but has not dared to get married because of the obsession from her mother's story. This made director Le Hoang unable to hide his emotion: "This is a very dangerous form of abuse - abuse of naivety and ignorance. Not all abuse is physical abuse, there are psychological abuses that make people lose their whole lives.
The male director shed tears when talking about the consequences left for the next generation: "This man not only missed a woman's life, but also hurt a child, growing up with a lack of faith in the family.
