At the beginning of the program, Ms. C - the program's audience - shared a surprising story about her married life after giving birth. She said that two years ago, when she gave birth to her first child, her husband went into the delivery room with his wife, but because he was shocked by the delivery scene, he was stunned and had to go outside. Since then, the couple have not been close. Ms. C confided: "I was worried that my husband was haunted so I avoided covering his pillow. This is too sensitive, I don't know how to talk to my husband".
After listening to the above story, singer Doan Trang said that she was very lucky to have a husband accompanying her.
"The husband is a witness from beginning to end, so I feel very lucky and happy when a man sees how miserable and painful his wife's childbirth process is. After that, he showed me a great deal of love, even more than before I was born, Doan Trang shared.
The female singer said that after giving birth, she was ugly and tired, but her husband was always by her side, encouraging and expressing gratitude for his wife's painful overcoming to bring a "common asset" to both of them.
Dr. To Nhi A acknowledged that this is a sensitive psychological problem, not only for the wife but also for the husband. Many women are afraid to let their husbands witness their painful and exhausted image, afraid that their husbands will lose their affection. The husband himself may also be overwhelmed or not ready to face the reality of childbirth.
Therefore, going to the nursery with your husband requires careful psychological preparation from both sides, and should not be considered a must. Sharing a psychological perspective on the husband and wife entering the delivery room, Dr. To Nhi A was especially impressed with the detail that singer Doan Trang repeatedly mentioned her "luckiness". But Dr. To Nhi A affirmed that luck does not come naturally, it is the result of preparation, of cultural foundation, of consensus and even efforts to overcome social barriers.
Dr. To Nhi A emphasized that, to resolve the problem, the wife should start by reminding the husband's feelings during the day in the delivery room: ask him what he remembers and how much pain it is when he sees his wife surrender. Being able to speak and face memories will help the husband relieve psychological stress, as a form of psychological therapy.
The doctor also suggested that, before considering the issue of being close to husband and wife, the wife should let her husband approach her body with gentle care actions such as oiling, massage, medication, etc.
Creating a new, fresh, healthy image will replace the old, haunting impression after giving birth. Doan Trang also encourages women to practice, take care of themselves, and live positively to regain their attractiveness and new energy. That is also a way to reconnect with your husband without having to say too much.
