Small things cause great damage in the family
In married life, sometimes it is not a big incident that causes a family to stir up, but rather a very normal but repeated act. Its not a big conflict that makes a marriage tiring, its emotional exhaustion from small things that dont get resolved early, says Dr Marissa Carter, a marriage psychologist at Northwell Family Center.
One of the most common causes is ignoring each other's emotions. When one person tells a story but the other person only answers the loudspeaker, eyes stuck to the phone, that indifference accumulates into a feeling of being taken lightly. Many couples share that they feel lone in their own families, not because of lack of love but because of a lack of real presence.
In addition, dividing up unfair housing is also a simmering passion. Having to shoulder most of the childcare, cleaning or financial worries can easily make them feel exhausted and disrespected. Family never demands perfection, but always needs sharing.
Pre- shape early to avoid long-term cracks
Another quite common mistake is often saying unintentional and insulting jokes. Zoning when angry, or joking about appearance, family background... can create a silent cut in the heart of the partner. Unintentional speech can cause more harm than action, because it touches self-respect, says Dr. Carter.
In addition, forgetting to spend time together is also a big reason. When life is swept away by work, children and financial pressure, couples can easily take the moments of connection lightly. Just a few minutes of evening chatting, a hug, a simple question How are you/ited today? are enough to keep the family warm.
In particular, the habit of keeping everything in your heart makes conflicts unresolved. When emotions are suppressed for too long, just a small situation can make things flare up fiercely. frankness, kindness and calmness are always the keys to safety to help the family overcome the storm.
Sustainable families do not rely on big things, but from each person's hard work to pay attention to each other's emotions, picking up the small pieces of damage before they become a gap. Just a little change in daily behavior, the warmth in the home will warm up significantly.
