According to her sharing, Ms. My once went through a 9-year marriage and had a riêng child. After the breakup, she met her current husband on a charity trip. Attracted by her filial piety and sincere appearance, she quickly placed her trust in a new relationship and moved towards marriage.
With the desire to build a family, Ms. My devoted all her financial resources to support her husband's studies and career development. She mortgaged assets, borrowed money, and also shouldered many economic responsibilities. However, notably, the two only held a wedding without registering their marriage - an important legal factor but was overlooked.
The upheaval began when the relationship between her and her husband's family became tense. Conflicts related to money and behavior gradually isolated her. During the time her husband was studying far away, despite many suspicions, Ms. My still chose absolute trust.
The truth was only revealed when the husband admitted to maintaining a relationship with another woman before dating her. Not only that, these two continued to live together during his school days. This information caused Ms. My to fall into a state of shock and serious mental crisis.
After returning, the husband had conflicting actions: sometimes expressing affection, sometimes being cold and gradually cutting off contact. The shock of being rejected suddenly made Ms. My collapse for a long time, even having negative behavior towards herself but luckily being saved.
From a professional perspective, psychologist To Nhi A believes that the core cause does not lie in external factors, but stems from lack of understanding and misjudgment about the partner from the beginning.
You have good intentions but lack wisdom. When your husband maintains another relationship, it is a personal choice, not due to any other influence. The problem is that you have not properly recognized the nature of people and relationships," the female expert analyzed.
According to her, the confusion between filial piety and responsibility to the family, along with excessive financial and emotional sacrifices, has caused Ms. My to lose the necessary balance in marriage. Not setting clear boundaries and ignoring legal factors also puts women in a weak position when disputes occur.
The story also shows that a relationship lacking a reliable and transparent foundation is very likely to lead to breakdown, regardless of the efforts to nurture it from one side. Sacrifice if not accompanied by sobriety and principles will become a burden, even causing long-term damage.
At the end of the program, Ms. My said that she would not return to the old relationship if there was an opportunity. This decision shows a change in awareness after experiencing the upheaval.
Closing the story, Dr. To Nhi A emphasized that the important thing is not to cling to a broken relationship, but to understand personal values, set limits and choose the right path for the future.
