Quick love, early marriage and the gap of understanding
After only a few months of getting to know each other, many young people have decided to get married. The trend of rapid love and early marriage is becoming more and more popular, reflecting clear changes in the concept of love and marriage of today's young people.
Hoang Anh (25 years old, Hanoi) said that she and her husband decided to get married because they "same frequency" when getting to know each other through the dating app. After about 2 months of chatting and meeting often, the two decided to get married.
However, after a period of living together, the couple realized that there were too many differences in lifestyle, thinking and living habits.
"I want the couple to earn money to build a common life together, and he wants me to stay as a housewife and help his mother-in-law with daily housework," Ms. Hoang Anh confided.
Similarly, Mr. Manh Tuan (30 years old, Hai Phong) said that he decided to get married hastily after a few months of getting to know each other because his family urged him to get married. However, when he got married, his wife did not want to have children immediately but wanted to work for a few years to save money and stabilize the economy to raise children less difficult.
"I am also old, wanting to have a child soon so that both parents can have grandchildren. It's a pity that my wife still has unfinished work and I haven't mentioned this issue to my wife before getting married," Mr. Tuan shared.
Experts recommend careful consideration before deciding to get married early
Sharing with Lao Dong Newspaper reporter, psychologist Chu Thi Thao - NHC Vietnam Center for Psychology and Human Development - said that the current rapid love - early marriage of young people is not simply an impromptu act. In the era of rapid digital technology development, people can easily approach and get to know each other through dating apps.
''Just by interacting and chatting on social networks, young people have easily shared about themselves, more easily opening their hearts. From there, they have sympathy for the other person only through the screen but in reality they are not like that'', the expert said.
According to experts, today's young people often forget the sacred value of marriage, no longer have a long-term, harmonious bond with a partner.
'' Marriage is not only love but also harmony in lifestyle, finances, life value and the ability to resolve conflicts. When the time to get to know each other is shortened, the risk of conflict after marriage will be higher, said the expert.
According to experts, to make happiness not just a short moment, every early wedding decision needs to be based on long-term understanding and responsibility.
''A sustainable marriage does not stop at initial vibrations or sublime moments, but requires understanding, sharing and long-term responsibility. Therefore, each decision to "come home together" needs to be carefully considered, placed on the foundation of maturity, psychological preparation and the ability to overcome challenges in married life together' '' the expert said.
