Seeing a 20-year-old female student as cheerful, agile, and lively as she is now, no one thought Nguyen Thanh Thuy (Hanoi) was a victim of school violence throughout her 11th and 12th grades.
Every day at school, Thuy is always in a state of anxiety because she does not know what games are "waiting" for her. If people think of school violence as only teasing, defaming, bullying, slander, and beatings, the pain left in the victims' psychology is actually even more terrible.
Physical violence will cause wounds to heal over time; families, schools, and society will see the problem and can take appropriate measures. But children who are subjected to mental violence, defamed by friends, made fun of, enslaved in class... will gradually die, their souls will die, and even despair.
I was slandered, mocked, and teased by a group of friends in class to satisfy their mokiness and selfishness. Just seeing me, they find every way to mock me to make me feel ashamed and self-conscious in front of the crowd.
I was really scared and mentally ill for a long time. I was so afraid of going to school that I was hospitalized enough to be out of school, so helpless that I cried in class, I could only cry at night because I couldn't do anything else" - Thuy confided.
More frightening is that no one sympathizes, understands and dares to stand up to defend me. The classmates knew the story and saw the injustice, but no one dared to play alongside them for fear of revenge and being the next victim of school violence. Thuy often receives words blaming her back like why dont you do, then they will hate and bully you.
The female student never told her parents about what happened at school because she was afraid that her family would worry. I have wanted to ask my mother to transfer schools or classes many times, but thinking back, I still endure. Thuy was self-conscious, did not communicate with friends, and even wanted to ask their friends questions but was afraid.
The homeroom teacher knew about this, but she only accepted the indifference and had no solution because the teacher thought this was a child's matter. The extreme of despair caused the female student to fall into depression for a long time.
"At the end of grade 12, I was lucky to meet a friend from another class, who paired, helped, and shared with me. This is also the motivation for me to escape my fear, try to study and review for the university entrance exam.
The mental pain is so great that it is not until the end of my first year of university that I can stabilize my psychology and self-treat myself.
Personally, I think that victims of school violence really need sharing and sympathy from everyone, especially those close to them such as parents, homeroom teachers, and friends.
This story is not new but is truly a horror for students. The problem will not be solved if adults do not realize the badness of the problem they consider a "childhood problem". Please pay attention to the children before it's too late" - Thanh Thuy confided.
