In the process of raising children, setting limits is necessary for children to develop safely and responsibly. However, many parents find it difficult to say no to their children, because they are afraid of disappointing or hurting their children, according to hindustantimes.
Psychologists say that the way of communicating is the decisive factor in how children receive messages.
Its not a denial to say no to your child, says Dr Chandni Tugnait, psychotherapist, Director of Gateway of Healing (India). If expressed clearly and gently, it is an act of love. Limitations help children learn respect, patience... these are all qualities that adults need".
Ms. Tugnait emphasizes that a negative message with a rough tone of voice can make children feel abandoned. On the contrary, if parents are decisive but calm, children will understand that there are safe and consistent limits.
Here are 5 ways parents can say no to their children positively, suggested by Dr. Chandni Tugnait:
Admitting children's feelings before refusing
For example: "Mom knows I really want to watch more cartoons, but now it's time to go to bed." This way of showing empathy while maintaining limits.
Short and clear explanation
Instead of giving a long explanation, just a simple reason: Today we are not buying more toys, because we are saving for another special gift.
Change direction with alternative options
Not just stopping at "no", parents should give another suggestion: "We don't eat ice cream before dinner, but you can choose another healthy snack".
Calm and steadfast
Children often challenge boundaries, but parents' consistency will create confidence for children. If you say no, hold on.
Respect children
The way you say no will teach children how to set limits for themselves. Speak with a gentle but determined voice to teach children how to set limits in a civilized way without having to be too strict.
According to experts, the most important thing is to help children understand that parents' words do not mean rejecting their children's love or happiness, but an act of protection and care.
When this word is spoken with love, it becomes a foundation to help children grow up safely and know how to appreciate the limits of themselves and others.
