Raising children has never been an easy journey. Some parents choose strictness and scolding to discipline their children, while others tend to be gentle and protective. However, according to psychologist Dr. Laura Anderson Kirby (USA), the balance between love and principles is the key to helping children develop comprehensively.
In the process of raising children, many parents often struggle between two extremes: being too strict or being too indulgent. Some people believe that children need to be taught with strict discipline to become polite and know how to follow rules. Conversely, some parents think that overprotecting children will make them feel comfortable and loved.
However, according to experts, the most effective parenting style lies in the harmony between these two approaches. That is the "powerful" parenting method - a family education model highly appreciated in many modern psychological studies.
What is raising children with authority?
The concept of "powerful parenting" was introduced by developmental psychologist Diana Baumrind in the 1970s, when she studied popular family education styles.
Accordingly, authoritative parents are those who both set limits and clear principles, and maintain love, support and listen to their children. They do not impose rigid control, but also do not completely let go.
This style creates a balanced family environment where children are respected emotionally but still understand responsibility and limits.
The balance between love and discipline
The biggest difference of authoritative parenting methods lies in the fact that parents both play a role in orienting and accompanying their children.
Instead of just giving commands, parents will explain to children the reasons for the rules. Children are encouraged to express their thoughts, but also learn to take responsibility for their behavior.
For example, when children make mistakes, parents not only scold them but also help them understand the consequences of their actions, thereby learning how to adjust.
Besides, powerful parents often set an example for their children through calm, reasonable and responsible behavior in daily life.
Why is this method evaluated as effective?
According to psychologists, children need both love and clear orientation for healthy development.
If they are too strict, children may become afraid, lack self-esteem, fear of being wrong or resistance when they grow up. Conversely, if they are too indulgent, children are easily indisciplined, difficult to control their emotions and dependent on others.
Meanwhile, a powerful parenting style helps children feel safe because they always receive support from their parents, but at the same time still understand that every action comes with responsibility.
Many studies also show that children raised in this way often have better social skills, more active learning ability and are more likely to build healthy relationships when they grow up.
According to experts, parents do not need to completely change their way of raising children in just one day. Small changes in communication and behavior can also make a big difference.
Parents can start by listening to their children more, setting clear but flexible rules, and maintaining a calm attitude when solving problems.
Raising children is not about becoming a perfect father or mother, but about learning to accompany children with love, respect and appropriate orientation according to each stage of adulthood.
