There is an invisible type of uniform that you put on yourself such as how to talk, how to laugh, how to post a photo, even how to appear "different".
There is a friend who works in the media, very diligent, updating all trends, from how to write captions to how to pose. His personal page is beautiful, meticulous, "standard" to the point that... they no longer recognize him. Everything is right, but there is something missing that makes people remember. He is not wrong. It's just that he has tried too hard to become a "recognized" version and forgot his original.
On the opposite side, there are online sellers who do not know how to edit photos elaborately, livestream often stutter, and sometimes forget product names. But customers really like it. Because she is real. She tells stories of her cat overturning the box, complains about the shipper going wrong, laughs at trivial everyday things with a very charming look.
Between these two types of people, you often stand somewhere halfway and look at successful role models and think that just following them will be "right". But a shirt can be sewn in bulk, but not a person. The problem is, finding a "success formula" sometimes makes us feel secure. It's like taking an exam with the answer available. We don't have to struggle, not wrong. But the price to pay is that we lose the right to be wrong in our own way. But in fact, those mistakes are what create personality.
In life, you can learn to talk like a successful person, dress like them, and even think according to what they share. But in the end, what makes others remember you is not who you look like, but where you are different. The funny thing is that sometimes you don't realize you have imitated too much. You think you like a lifestyle, but in fact it is a lifestyle that many people praise. You think you are confident, but in fact you are trying to fit into a pattern. The hardest thing is not to become excellent, but to dare to be normal in your own way. Dare to say things that are not "viral", do things that are not "trendy", live a life without too many people nodding in praise.
And then, something quite strange happens: When you stop trying to be like others, you become more comfortable, more natural. Things that you thought were "not good enough" suddenly become unique. Your path does not necessarily coincide with anyone else and success when it comes will also have a very personal, very real shape of you.
