Behind the facade of a "model" family
Working together at Noi Bai airport, the family of Mr. Nguyen Van Hung and Ms. Le Thi Bich Ngoc (Hanoi) is a model family that many people admire. But few people know that that peace is just a fragile cover. Inside, the cracks in relationships are becoming increasingly clear: Husband and wife lack deep understanding, youngest son is increasingly distant.
Ms. Ngoc always felt lonely, not really happy as the outside compliments. Mr. Hung admitted that at that time he was quite conservative, angry and rarely listened to his wife and children's opinions. The greatest pain of the couple was the separation from their youngest son. Despite all efforts to advise and correct him, his child fell into silence or had hidden resistance behaviors.
Coincidentally, Ms. Ngoc learned about the free sharing program of Master of Psychology Nguyen Thi Lanh (Minh Tri Thanh Academy Joint Stock Company). She brought Mr. Hung to participate. Initially, Mr. Hung participated only to "please his wife". But the more he studied, the more convinced he became by the knowledge introduced. Mr. Hung was determined to participate in more in-depth programs here.
Mr. Hung realized that: Everything comes from himself. For a long time, he has sown negative seeds in his loved ones with irritability and excessive ego. From Master Nguyen Thi Lanh's programs, he understands knowledge about "Red People" (containing hurtful memories) and "Green People" (confident, loving people).
Parents need to "mature" before changing their children
From this journey, they understand that: Parents need to "mature" before changing their children. Mr. Hung began his journey back inside, learning to take 100% responsibility for all emotions and upheavals in the family. His commitment was so strong that from someone who learned from his wife's requests, he became the most diligent practitioner.
The change was present in every thought, emotion and action of both husband and wife. They began to establish new discipline: Running and studying together every day.
Mr. Hung no longer gives orders, gets angry with his children. He chooses to acknowledge his wife's efforts, acknowledge his children's progress. Instead of being angry, he is at peace and listens to his children deeply. Ms. Ngoc is also aware of the need to look back at herself, take 100% responsibility for her life.
This "setting an example" creates a wave of miraculous change in the children. When they see their father persistently completing 10km, the eldest son quietly puts on his shoes and runs along. When their father conquers the 21km milestone, the second son also voluntarily participates. Without having to impose or teach harsh words, the perseverance of parents has become a source of inspiration to motivate their children to overcome their own limits.
Now, Mr. Hung and Ms. Ngoc's house is always filled with laughter and sincere care. The children are no longer confined to their own world but proactively connect and take care of their parents through each meal and story.
Not only stopping at the warm home, the positive spirit also helps Mr. Hung - Ms. Ngoc sublimate in work. With a spirit of always being cheerful and understanding colleagues, they have received high appreciation and recognition from agency leaders.
As Master Nguyen Thi Lanh often shares: "Children don't listen to what you say, they watch what you do". The story of Mr. Hung and Ms. Ngoc's family once again affirms that the changes and strong actions of parents are a mirror to add confidence to their children on their journey to adulthood. At the same time, the cracks in family relationships are naturally filled.
