She is not a person who is easily hot-tempered but is the type of person who is "calm most of the time, explosive in an instant". She always calls the young girl to come in to do administrative work in the room.
"Have you checked the floor?" - she asked with wide eyes.
" Yes... I sent you a new version yesterday..." - the girl was young.
"How to send but send so I can be approved a day late? Do you go to work or travel?" - she bullied, her voice was harsh.
Yes... I apologize, I think... - the girl had not yet finished the sentence before she hit the table: What do you think? If you do wrong, then accept it!.
A few more sentences, the girl's tears fell. She did not pay attention. She also has to deal with dozens of things that are more important than the emotions of an employee who has not had enough two months of probation. She still thinks that scolding is to let people learn from experience. What's wrong with me?
But then the story did not stop there. The girl resigned the next day. Then rest. No goodbye, not greeting colleagues. Thought was just an administrative employee, missing others. Until the Human Resources Department reported: The girl was the grandson of Deputy General Director, being trained to advance in the system. And the criticism "She was a little lack of emotional control in handling the situation" silently entering the assessment record of the second quarter.
Since then, she has always been gently reminded - in meetings, in the hesitant looks of colleagues, in the times her boss asks: "Are you okay? Do you need to take a break to relax your mind?" made her feel stressed and worried.
From anger, she learned something that books have written a lot about but people still forget: angry words are like a knife - even when drawn, they leave scars. The consequences sometimes do not come immediately, but they will come - silently, persistently and enough to make us look back.
The disease is not bad. It is a natural human reaction. But to let anger overwhelm reason, that is the choice. An easy choice that costs a lot. From then on, she started attending a meditation class to calm down and practice the habit of settling down when angry, counting to ten before speaking. And sometimes, if I finish counting, I still feel angry... then I count from the beginning.
